(Closed) Is this strange?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

That does sound totally weird, but if it works for you who cares? I make dinner by myself every night, and we eat together. He can’t cook and just gets in the way usually.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I hate eating with my fiance! He’s in the military so he scarfs it down and I get full just from watching him! lol so we usually eat separately. When we go out to eat together, I always get a take-home box because I try to keep up with him (not on purpose!) and I get full so quick.

And we hate cooking lol

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We eat together.  It’s a time for us to spend time together, unwind, and talk about our day.  We both work long hours, so it feels like it’s the only time we set aside for each other.  I look forward to eating dinner with Darling Husband every night.  We don’t always eat similar food.  Like your Boyfriend or Best Friend, I’m more of a snacker than a full blown meal eater, which he is.  Sometimes we eat different food, but as often together as we can.  However, even if I’m not always hungry or he’s not always hungry when I’m hungry, the other person will sit with the other person just to spend time together.  I don’t think you need to plan and cook your meals together every night (we don’t do that), but I think it’s nice to spend time with each other, and for us, that’s dinner.    

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I tihink it’s odd that your boyfriend wants to eat snacks instead of an actual meal….buttttt if this works for you guys, then it’s your normal.

Darling Husband and I do eat dinner together every night.  One of us usually cooks or we grab something to-go on the way home from work.  Very rarely (but sometimes) we’ll eat different things, but that’s usually because one of us has obligations after work, so we each get our own food.  For us, it’s just much easier to cook something and cook enough for both of us. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

clarissabee:  I eat at the same time as my husband for the most part. Dinner we eat together everyday but I eat a snack while he eats a meal. I don’t think we need to eat the same thing to be able to have dinner together. I think it’s important to make the time to sit together while you guys are eating dinner because you get to speak about your day, but that doesn’t mean these conversations can only occur at dinner time, you guys can recollect on your day’s events after dinner when you’re together watching TV, taking a walk, etc. I don’t think it’s weird, everybody is different and has different relationships that work for them, that doesn’t mean that one is better than the other. WHATEVER WORKS! 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

We don’t typically cook together at all. Our kitchen is too small for that lol. But if I need him to jump in and prep something while I cook or vice versa we have each other’s back.

He cooks for the family some days and I cook on the others. And we always have a meeting of the mind on what we want for dinner. Me and dd usually eat together and he will prepare our plates and make sure we are good before he settles down to watch tv. He rarely eats at the same time because his appetite is a bit different. On the days I cook I make his plate and put it in the microwave for him to sit. the only times we eat togethe are usually when we go out for lunch or dinner. 

all that to say do what works for your relationship. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I don’t think this is weird. My SO and I are kind of like that. Except we both are meal people, we just have different tastes in food (aka I’m a picky eater and will hardly eat vegetables and anything I consider “adventurous”. After a while we did realize that we’re missing valuable quality time together by going by this “every man for himself mentality” so at least once a week I try to make one meal that we both are going to sit down and eat together (even if that means I make a separate dish for him with mushrooms and onions).

If neither of you are bothered by this & your relationship is working for you, then keep on keeping on. No need to change things based on how others interact with their SOs.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think if that’s working you, then it’s fine!

my Darling Husband and I eat dinner together every night. I cook most nights, and he cooks when I need a night off! We make a meal plan each week of things we both like do that we don’t have to cook separate things 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

clarissabee:  Maybe that’s why he has no silverware, because he eats peanuts for dinner? I don’t think it’s too weird to not eat together necessarily, but personally we enjoy it. It’s our wind down the day together time, and we cook together sometimes, so that’s fun. It would bother me, for my husband’s health, if he just ate snacks. Plus we like trying lots of different foods. I’ve really opened up his meat and potato eyes.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

We used to eat similarly to you two but I got frustrated because I don’t like tv dinners, etc. every night and couldn’t find quick meals for one. Now we generally make dinner when we get home from work and eat together. A lot of times when he says he isn’t hungry and will snack instead of eat meals, he ends up eating whatever I made because it looks good.

Don’t compare yourself to random strangers on the Internet. if you eat lunch at different times, or get home from work or go to the gym or whatever  at different points in the evening, you might not sync up. As long as you’re both satisfied, it doesn’t matter if it’s normal.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

It’s unusual, but if the only reason it bothers you is because your friends are saying things like “that’s weird!” then doesn’t sound like a real issue of concern. Every relationship has its quirks.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

My husband cooks for the 2 of us but we often eat slightly different foods; I’ve got lots of allergies so don’t eat sauces but he loves them. We will both have similar food, so tonight he had grilled bbq pork chops and I had grilled salmon and we both had rice and vegetables, for example. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

We never cook together, I do all of the cooking. Sometimes we eat together, sometimes we don’t. Darling Husband often gets home late and I’m hungry when I get home at 6 and want to eat then, so I’ll eat without him. We almost always eat the same thing though. 

Whatever works for you guys is fine I think. Aside from the fact that chips and peanuts isn’t a very healthy dinner, I don’t really see a problem with how you do things if it makes you happy and you are getting quality time elsewhere.

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