Post # 1
I am having my dress made for me. I will probably have it by Labor Day weekend when I fly out to visit my friend who’s making it. My mom accompanied me to try on dresses once, and she took a few photos. We ran into someone we both knew and she was showing pictures of the dress I didn’t get. I started to think about the dress I’m actually getting, the plans I’ve made so far..
Is it weird for me to not want anyone like my mom or FMIL to tell too many people the details of the wedding? And heaven forbid share pictures of the dress with too many people? I want to share wedding details with my parents, future in-laws and bridesmaids (because that’s one of the more fun parts), but I think I want to keep some things (mainly my dress) a mystery to guests coming.
Am I bonkers? I know part of this is just me wanting to make sure it’s still special, and no matter what it will be, but I somehow can’t help it.
Post # 2
TheAnonyMouse: No you’re not bonkers and it is a totally reasonable request. Photos get over-shared too easily these days.
Remember, though, that your mother is excited about the wedding too! Perhaps as a compromise, you could say she can show photos to people who won’t be at the wedding (e.g. her work colleagues or friends) but she can’t email/send photos to anyone.
Post # 3
Another thing to keep in mind is that a dress looks different on than it does in a photo or on a model in a photo.
Also whilst these details are important to you because it is your wedding most people who ask are doing so out of politeness (because it is polite to ask someone about things going on in their life) and will likely forget the details.
A lot of brides get caught up in the wedding machine (and cause themselves so much un needed stress) and forget how little other people are concerned about the details. They are just happy for and with you about your upcoming marriage- the details not so much.
Post # 4
TheAnonyMouse: I thought keeping the dress secret was normal. Only 4 people have seen mine and are all sworn to secrecy 🙂 we’re keeping other little bits and pieces secret too but not much