Is this strange or not?

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think it’s weird but also think it has nothing to do with you because it would be weird if you did it too.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I don’t think its that weird since he is running a family business with his dad/her spouse and her other son. I’m assuming she also decorated other spaces, e.g. their offices as well? When I read your first line I thought he had started a new job in a big corporate office or something, which would be bizarre. I would just let it go.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well, I thought it was weird when my friend went and decorated her husband’s office so I don’t think it’s a reflection of your decorating skills as I don’t think people usually are in charge of decorating their SO’s office.

I do think it’s a little less strange that she decorated it as it’s a family business. I’m assuming she had a hand in decorating most of the offices there?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

It’s a family business so I don’t think this is weird. It’s not like she rocked up to a massive corporation and sneaked past all his coworkers she didn’t know with a box full of plants and photo frames. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Since it’s a family business, no. Well it is a little…but about as weird as if you went & decorated his office. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I think it’s weird if she didn’t consult with him first. If someone else decorated my office without asking I’d be mad 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

misskitty90 :  It would only be weird if you had offered to do it, she was aware of it, and still went ahead.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I think it’s weird, especially since he didn’t ask her to and it sounds like she didn’t ask him either, she just did it.

It’s hard for me to see this as anything other than a power-play, like she’s trying to indicate she’s HBIC.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i don’t think it is weird. maybe she was decorating the father’s because he asked or she asked him and decided to do her sons’ as well.  does it look nice? does she have an eye for decorating?

if it wasn’t a family business, then i would find it weird.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

It’s a family business. Her husband and sons work there, so she put some special touches of her own in it.

I don’t see a problem. It’s seems like a normal thing to me. If he doesn’t like the decorations she chose, that’s between him and his mother.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Does she have her own job, or is it just her husband who works? It may be that she sees this as her way of contributing to the family business. I would let it go, I doubt it has anything to do with you, but rather her desire to be of help.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Still seems like a boundary violation to me.  You don’t go around rearranging or redecorating another adult’s space without their permission.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I don’t think it has anything to do with you. It’s a family business, she likely just wanted to help out as she could. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Well anyone but him decorating is slightly weird. It being a family business does it less weird. Could be boundary issue or she just wanted to do something nice. If it was just a company he worked for, you or mom decorating would be highly innapropriate.

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