Post # 1
So I have a question.. I am getting married next September, out of town, with a super small group of close friends/family. I guess some would consider this a destination wedding, since its out of state.. I doubt we’ll get more than 15 guests to attend (which is totally fine with me!).
Our wedding ceremony will be in the afternoon from 3-5.. we will do the ceremony, cake and champagne, and photography during that time frame…
We’re kind of at a loss as to what to do afterwards for our guests. A sit down dinner feels too stuffy (especially because there’s a lot of family tension already), the restaurant/club that we LOVE would require a RIDICULOUS food/bev minimum (since our date happens to be a Friday).. and we simply can’t justify that expense for only 15 people….
So now we’re thinking that we might rent a party bus (yeah, the kind with stripper poles and a DJ), have on board catering and liquor/drinks, and then take the group from the ceremony to the downtown area to sightsee/barhop. They’d have the choice of staying on the bus and hanging out or going into the bars/seeing the sites.
What do you all think? We’re not super formal people and just want our guests to HAVE FUN. Is this TOO tacky? If your close friend invited you to this sort of shindig would you be like “wtf?” or be totally on-board?
EDIT: I should add that YES! all of our friends like to drink/hang out and I’m not concerned with what is “proper” here.. I’m looking for unique and fun!
Post # 3
I’m not crazy about it. Why not just call it over at 5, then let everyone know you’re heading downtown to (x) bar?
Post # 4
@TuckStar: I love the idea, especially if it matches your personalities. For such a small group of people i think it will work. However, you may want to consider the age group of your invitees. Not sure if grandma or grandpa will understand the reason for a stripper pole…lol
Post # 6
I’m not sure if family tensions and barhopping go well together. LOL
I agree with the PP who said call it quits at 5:00. You could always go out with friends to celebrate afterward.
Post # 7
Haha I don’t think grands/grands will be there.. its too far for them to travel.. We’re looking at a group who’s bulk age is 26.. with the parents thrown in.. 🙂 I know my mom would be down.. FI’s parents would get into it eventually haha…
My other consideration was just to be like “The wedding is over at 5, we’re going to xyz at 6, meet us there”.. but downtown tends to be overly crowded (think times square on new years) and the odds of us all being able to get seating together is slim…. so I’m thinking of a party bus as a fun way for us to all stay together? Kind of?
Does anyone have any other non-traditional ideas for this sort of post-wedding reception? As you can tell, the whole sit down thing really isn’t our cup of tea..
Post # 8
I think it’s a little awkward for a wedding reception or post-wedding event. The best part of the reception is always spending time with other guests, seeing old friends and making new ones. If you took everyone to a super crowded downtown area where you weren’t likely to get a table to sit together, then that kind of defeats the purpose of having that type of event, plus it just feels a little weird to share such an intimate event with all those strangers.
Would you consider a pre-ceremony party like a brunch for the whole group? Then everyone goes their separate ways and does their own thing at 5.
Also if you post the destination city I am sure you will get some more interesting ideas from the locals there.
Post # 9
Can you rent out a back room at a bar or something so people don’t have to sit down and dine together and have passed hors d’oeuvres and/or little stations and get a drink special/pick up the tab? You could have them stream in music or pop in a ipod? That way you everyone can be together and have the option of heading into the main bar if it gets too intense. I’d be afraid that everyone would get split up too much with the bar hopping, especially since you said it’s so crowded. where are you having your DW? Maybe some bees will know of some places that have a private party room there.
Post # 10
We’re doing it in Nashville. We really wanted to rent the upper balcony at Robert’s Western World and do the whole apps/drinks/music thing but the minimum for a Friday night is too much for our tiny group… Ideally we’d like to have a space in a Honky Tonk. Any Nashville Bees out there?
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@RockStar33: Ditto. If the friends and family are onboard with it, I think it will go over well. Test it out on a few people you plan on inviting.
Post # 12
I didn’t know you were in NYC? Maybe you could all go to an eclectic bar afterward. For instance, in Baltimore there is a place called Illusions that is a bar with a magician. I’m not saying to find a magic bar but something different like that would be fun maybe. 🙂
P.S. I hate magic…it’s weird. LOL
Post # 13
I didn’t vote. I think dinner still might be the best bet. If you are afraid of it being too “stuffy”, maybe choose a more laid back restaurant? And AFTER dinner, hit the town?
Post # 14
@fishbone: I actually really like this idea.. Since the wedding is at three, I wonder if it would n’t make things a little hectic while we’re supposed to be getting ready?
Post # 15
Couldn’t you make reservations at a restaurant that doesn’t require a minimum? I think if you want to continue the party you should at least have some option for dinner other than apps…
Post # 16
@TuckStar Not from Nashville, but my bachelorette was there. How about the balcony or the raised platform area at The Stage—maybe they can reserve it for you, like a VIP section and you can run a tab all night. Also the Wildhorse Salon HAS to have a back room somewhere.
My Maid/Matron of Honor reservered the back room at Benchmark (it’s right on 2nd) and we had heavy apps and drinks before we went all-out, they do have live music too. They were very nice and prices were beyond reasonable.