(Closed) Is this tacky?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you find a postcard RSVP tacky?

    Heck yeah, that's just not right!

    No way, I'm all for saving some cash!

  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Tacky is totally the wrong word… I think “trendy” is better suited! A lot of couples have gone this route for various reasons. We’re doing it because it’s eco-chic! I’m all for saving a tree! 🙂

    Is it REALLY that much cheaper to send a postcard though? Usually when you buy the invitation or RSVP the envelope is included in the price… our postcard is the same price as if we went with the traditional card & envelope!

    Post # 18
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Sounds easier both on you and on your guests. Go for it!

    Post # 19
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Recessionista: I think postage for postcards is quite a bit less…

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee

    Not tacky at all! I think its brilliant! 🙂

    Post # 21
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think its a great idea!!

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think postcards are great and I’m all for the eco-friendly ideas! But I have heard people talk about postcards getting beat up in the mail, and they get those computer postage labels stuck on the bottom, so I’d make sure you don’t put any of the fill-out part close to the bottom, and make sure it’s a matte paper that will soak up the ink from the guest’s pens so they’re legible for you after rough USPS handling. (What, the post office doesn’t handle our IMPORTANT WEDDING MAIL we spent so much time on with extra care????)

    I’m sure they will end up super-cute. And I definitely think people will not realize you’re doing it for reasons of frugality…I wouldn’t think of that if I was a guest!

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee

    Hey, we may send only postcard STDs. Then they can get all the rest of the info at our website.

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Not a dig deal you can find great ones!

    Post # 25
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @Gem: OH interesting! In Canada, its all the same price… 57 cents per piece of mail sent within Canada, 1.00 to the USA!

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee

    I’d actually go one step further on the “eco-chic” scale, and not include R.s.v.p. cards at all. Think about it:

    – Some number of your friends in the younger set — possibly the majority — won’t be “up” on current wedding fashions and won’t even know that there’s “supposed” to be an R.s.v.p. card, so they won’t think twice about it. Furthermore, many of them have never sent a letter by post in their lives — even their university applications were submitted online — and its an incovenience to force them to go find a real physical mailbox. They expect online options.

    – The “aunt mafia”, those of us who can remember before the 1980’s and actually care about correct form, remember when R.s.v.p. cards were considered slightly rude and commercialized, and know that we’re supposed to write out our own R.s.v.p. on our own stationery.

    – The more practical pre-text-messaging generation actually prefer phonecalls, because they’re hoping to ask where you are registered and what size pillowcases you use.

    Probably the only people who really care about your R.s.v.p. cards are you and your bridesmaids, because you’re sensitized to all things wedding planning — and any other girls who are also planning their weddings this year. Just put “R.s.v.p.” in the lower right corner, and your website and/or phone number underneath it, and save even more money and trees. And don’t worry about “grandma”. I’m 66, my brother is ten years older, and his exwife is even older than he — and we’re all on Facebook and capable of using email.

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    It’s what we did! We left some lines on it too so people could write us a cute little message too. And those few cents really add up!!

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    not tacky at all!!

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    im sure some of your guests that are trying to be green will really appreciate your gesture and the fact is, the envelope really doesnt add any more appeal to it, its just an envelope why bother!

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    no it’s perfectly fine.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Not tacky at all.  Cheaper, greener, and what we are doing too!

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