(Closed) Is this tacky? (Honesty, please!)

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think its rude at all– as a business she will be grateful that you’ve asked her, I promise!

I would just contact her and say,

“Dear _____, I don’t know if you have heard or not, but I am getting married to Fiance this October in NYC. We are so excited, and we have started our search for wedding photographers. I know that you are working as a photographer here in the city, and I would love to meet with you to get an estimate for our day. I think it would be special if you photographed our wedding, given our history as friends. Please let me know when would be a good time to meet and go over budget, etc.”

You certainly don’t have to invite her as a guest if you wouldn’t otherwise. In other words, if she wasn’t a photographer, would you invite her as a guest? If the answer is no, then use her as a vendor only. If the answer is yes, then invite her as a guest only, but do not ask her to do photos also. You just kind of have to pick which side of this you are on.

My best friend from college is an amazing photographer and I’ve had this debate also– do I want him to stand up with me at the front of the church on my side? Or do I want him to be taking pics? Such a hard choice, since we are really close and he is incredibly talented!

Post # 4
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House

I think it would be perfectly appropriate to ask her. It helps both of you out, you trust her and want to support her, but you both know that you haven’t kept up much so there’s no need to pretend you’re besties and invite her or feel awkward putting her to work. I say great idea =)

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