Post # 1
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Busy bee
I just came across this on Pinterest. It is called a Honeymoon jar and the description said, “Have this displayed at your wedding and see how much you can collect to spend on your honeymoon!”<br /> <br />What are your thoughts? Being a southern, I have yet to see this at a wedding but I know there are lots of ways brides collect money up north. <br />I would LOVE to do this – I mean, who doesnt want spending money on their honeymoon. But I wonder how people will take it… is it like ASKING for money?
I’m EXTREMELY hesitant but thought it would be a good discussion for here.
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Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
CallMeMrsG: Like my mama used to say” If you have to ask, you already know the answer”.
Yes, it is in poor taste
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
Well… most people will say yes, but I will say: Depends on where you live and your social circle. In México we do dollar dances (or the millionaire kiss version), massive bridal showers and several other stuff the bees would never ever consider appropiate, but well it is México. It is how we do things here.
If it is not common where you live and you are worried about the guests being offended, just don’t do it.
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
As a guest, I’d have zero desire to give you a monetary deposit towards your honeymoon. Your honeymoon is the responsibility of the couple. It’s your honeymoon, after all.
I don’t carry money/checkbook on me anyway, so even if I wanted to donate I wouldn’t be able to unless I wanted to drive/fly home to get cash or write out a check.
Post # 5
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Worker bee
A good idea in theory, but i do think it’s a bit tacky. I plan on doing a “dollar dance” at my wedding as a fun way to get a little extra spending money…guests take turns dancing with the bride/groom for a dollar (but guests usally give more). It’s a lot of fun and it gives you a chance to actually talk to your guests one-on-one 🙂
Post # 6
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Busy bee
julies1949: Yup! You are so right 😉
Post # 7
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Helper bee
CallMeMrsG: I think it’s asking for money, and in poor taste, but I’m a bit behind the times, I guess. On the other hand, what the hell do I care what anyone else wants to contribute to? To each their own.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I wouldn’t put money in….but a big part of that is that I would never have cash on me at a wedding, unless I knew it was a cash bar (which around here is unheard of).
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
I don’t see how this could even be misconstrued as a Northern thing.
It is a tacky thing. Period.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I think it largely depends. <br /><br />A lot of money is thrown around at the weddings (and included events) that I go to, but to have a separate jar for the honeymoon would be odd to see. I wouldn’t throw anything in since I make it a point to be as generous as I can be w/ the card I give to the couple on the big day (in addition to a shower gift). I would think it would be more appropriate for maybe “lighter” events, like maybe a rehearsal dinner or something.
Honestly though, if I didn’t see it here and saw it at a wedding, I’d think, “What the…, are they that hard up for cash?” Then start looking around to see what they spent too much money on to not be able to afford a honeymoon…but that’s just me 🙂
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Ugh. Don’t do this. Your wedding is not a fundraiser.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
CallMeMrsG: I go with tacky as well….guests already spend money on a gift and then travel if they are coming from out of town etc….I say if you want money for your honeymoon, then on your bridal blog site on the registry part ask for honeymoon help there…I have seen the ones where people can buy hotel room stays, dinners etc right on the brides site..that to me seems more appropriate. So, that becomes the wedding gift to the couple and your guest arent shelling out for showers, bachekolette parties, and then getting hit up at the wedding too!!!! ahhhh!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Putting aside whether its tacky or not… how do they get money in and out of that jar? It looks like it has a very narrow top!
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
CallMeMrsG: There is a classier way to go about this: as part of your registry you can do a Honeymoon Wishes (just google it) and people can say, buy you a dinner out or an ice cream or a horseback ride or something for on your honeymoon. You’re still “asking for money” but it’s in the form of gifts or activities or meals on your vacation. Much better, in my mind.
