Post # 91
Registries are tolerated in traditional etiquette circles, but barely. The polite fiction was that it is the bride’s list of things she intends to collect for the household. In truth, it was nothing more than a clever department store marketing campaign. But it was never proper to advertise this list, to include registry info on or in any wedding invitation or to solicit gifts in any way. People had to actively seek it out by word of mouth or other means.
Personally, I did not register, and in their current form, I happen to agree with you that more often than not there’s not much of a difference. On the other end, I am happy to ask about the existence of a couple’s registry and to purchase something I know they will like. Nevertheless, I would be somewhat put off by being solicited to do that in any way. There’s a difference.
Post # 92
Im having a wishing well at my wedding. I think it is classier then asking the way you saw on pintrist with the jar ect. With my invitations I have a card that had a little poem about the wishing well basically asking people to give money rather then gifts because we already live together and have most things and would prefer the money to go to paying off our home. I think its more then fine to ask this way. I still have some people going to give gifts because they have something special in mind which is perfectly fine as well. <br />I just didnt want loads to gifts that I may or may not like or of things I already have brought myself. Because we have been living together for 4 years we have most things you would need for the home.
Post # 93
I didn’t say it was tacky nor did I say it wasn’t okay to have one? I don’t care what other people do. I just wouldn’t choose the jar for myself. That’s cool you’re jumping the broom. I understand it is an African American tradition. I don’t mind people throwing money on the dance floor but I am worried that someone might slip on it and fall lol. Talk about being an anxious person!