Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor told me I’m inconsiderate and not thinking about the Flower Girl for the day of the wedding.
My Flower Girl is 7. I gave Maid/Matron of Honor the option if she wanted the Flower Girl hair done. She said yes. The hair appt. Start at 9 am. From the beginning I told all my Bridesmaids that I wanted them to spend the morning with me getting ready. Since hair starts at 9 they all have to be there at 9. Maid/Matron of Honor thinks that is to long of a day for the Flower Girl to come to the hotel to get ready. I said that is ok, she can come at noon and be last to get hair done. After the ceremony someone can take Flower Girl and do soemthing, get a snack, whatever. She said she didn’t have anyone to drop her off then and no one to take her after the ceremony (BTW her Boyfriend or Best Friend is coming and my other MOH’s husband is going to be there with ring bearer and MOHs are best friends, too). She wanted to come at 10:00-10:30ish with Flower Girl and other Maid/Matron of Honor. I said no she needed to be there at 9. I will have food and everything for everyone all morning. We have been really fighting before any of this and I don’t know if its just because of us fighting that she is saying that I’m being rude for not letting her come later with her 7 year old daughter. Maid/Matron of Honor basically trys to fight with every decission I’ve made with the wedding. In May when I had a different hair place, we originally planned to have a sleepover at my house all the bridesmaids would be invited. Maid/Matron of Honor was excited and was going to bring Flower Girl, to sleepover. But this would of been a longer day then a 9am start. This was before all the fighting started. Now 9 am is to early. Am I being unreasonable?
Post # 3
What time is your wedding?
Post # 4
It’s your wedding, it’s not right, but I’ve learned to trust a parent’s instincts when it comes to their kids…you do not want a totally exhausted 7 year old on your hands just in time for the ceremony, 7 isn’t a baby, but it’s hell and gone from an adult too…if it were me I would drop it and let them do what they gotta to be ok, because kids don’t wanna foul things up either, they just can’t help it sometimes.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
OMG it literally took me reading that entire post to figure out what “FG” meant. LOL
If Maid/Matron of Honor thinks her daughter won’t be able to handle that day, you better take her word for it Nona is right, but it does sound like she’s being difficult about the travel arrangements, can’t she come at 9 and Flower Girl come later?
Post # 6
It sounds like your Maid/Matron of Honor is being difficult and focusing on herself instead of you. It’s annoying, but you need to pick your battles. Depending on when the wedding starts, she might be right that it is a long day for the flower girl. If there is still enough time to do their hair starting at 10:30, then I would let them arrive late. You can still get started with your hair at 9am with the others. It’s hard when people complain about your planning and care more about their own convenience then making you happy, but some people are just like that. Don’t let it get you down. The wedding will still be great if they do their hair later. This one just isn’t worth fighting about.
Post # 7
I think it’s probably too long of a day for Flower Girl. I would cancel her hair, and have her show up at picture time.
Post # 8
This is why I’m not having children in my wedding party. What a pain. Btw, the kid is 7, not 2. Why wouldn’t she be able to handle the day? It’s not physical labor. She can handle it, I’m sure. She is old enough to not have a meltdown.
Post # 9
It’s too long. Skip the hair appt. for the Flower Girl.
Post # 10
The Flower Girl can come later. I have no problem with that. But I told Maid/Matron of Honor she has to be there at the sametime as everyone else. Even if I cancel the hair appointment that doesn’t change anything as Maid/Matron of Honor says she doesn’t have anyone to bring her later.
I guess I don’t get it, because she is 7. 7 year olds should have melt downs, she is in 1st grade but should be in 2nd grade. We will be in a hotel room, she will have a bed, a tv, food, and Maid/Matron of Honor can even bring stuff for her to do, like if she was at home.
What makes me the most upset was before we started fighting about everything, she was ok with a sleepover that was a longer day then it is now. Now she fights with me over everything and 9 am is to early. How is a sleepover ok when she’s not mad at me and 9 am is to early when she is? 9 am is a later start then a sleepover.
Post # 11
@tnt1128: I agree with everything you just said. She’s SEVEN, not two. She’s not gonna be balancing on one foot on the top of a column the whole day. She’ll be in a hotel room. She can nap, eat, use the bathroom, etc. She goes to school from morning to afternoon, I’m guessing. Why is Maid/Matron of Honor being such a diva? Her precious tot will be fine. When I was 7, I knew better than to freak out and throw a tantrum.