Post # 1
One of my close friends has recently moved into a gorgeous farmhouse (cough*mansion* cough). It’s on 15 acres of land, with paddocks, an indoor pool and many many bedrooms. She loves showing people her new place and I’m excited about visiting next weekend with my fiancé
I was showing my sister (who is one of my bridesmaids) photos of this farmhouse,who said that’s exactly the sort of thing she’s been looking for for my hen party. Now….would it be really cheeky of me to ask this friend about using her house for the hen party? She would be clearly invited however she isn’t one of my bridesmaids (only my sisters and my sister’s girlfriend are bridesmaids). I’m not sure if that would be overstepping the line? Especially as she isn’t one of my bridesmaids but I was one of hers. She lives in the house with her husband if that makes any difference.
My wedding will be in Spain and due to the fact that all my side will have to fly to Spain and stay in hotels I’ve asked my sisters to make the hen party in the uk and as cheap as poss. This would obviously keep the costs down a lot….
Tell me your honest thoughts.
Post # 2
I think it’s overstepping and rude to ask.
Post # 3
happybridetobe1988 : way overstepping. It puts her in a really awkward position – i would never invite myself to someone else’s house for the night, let alone inviting a whole party.
If you must, you could just hint at it and see if she offers (even this is a bit crass). Something along the lines of “omg your new house is gorgeous!!! Do you know if anyone around you is AirBnbing a space like yours? I know my sister has been searching for a similar property for my hen party.” That’s about as clear as day without actually outright asking – if she is open to hosting, she’ll likely offer. And if she doesn’t offer…then she doesn’t want to host and you shouldn’t ask.
Post # 4
Definitely don’t ask, I wouldn’t even feel comfortable asking my very best friend to do that.
Find a VRBO and call it good.
Post # 5
That is a LOT to ask of someone you are close to and too much to ask of someone you didn’t even choose as a bridesmaid.
Post # 6
Yes, it would be out of line to ask this, especially if she’s not a bridesmaid. At most you could drop some hints about how you were looking for something like that for your hen party and how beautiful it is, etc. If she doesn’t catch on and offer then I would back off.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I dont know, I would totally ask a good friend if I could host a party at their place. But I lived out of town when all my friends lived in town and I was kind of the “designated party organizer”.
If she loves her home and is super proud of it, I dont see the problem. You could always hint at it. Or similar to what a PP said, iin a normal conversation mention that your sister is having a difficult time coming up with a good venue for your bach, say what she was looking for (Private, pool, kitchen, etc.) and ask if she knows of any local/nearby places that fit the bill
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space
Depending how close I actually am with them, I’d probably say something like the PP mentioned along the lines of “Holy goodness, is this place ever nice? OMG YOU SHOULD AIR BNB IT! I’d rent it! We’re looking for a place for my hen party!”
But only if she’s super close and you’re normally cheeky with her. One of my closest friends does Lyft driving every once in a while and last week I messaged her and asked if she was gonna be doing any driving one night when I was going to need one so she could come pick me up. I wouldn’t ask most people that, though.
Post # 9
Only you know your relationship well enough to judge this. I would feel comfortable asking my very best friend if she would host a party for me in her house, and I also know that she would feel comfortable saying no if she didn’t want to do it— and I would be ok with her saying no. Obviously I have other friends where I would not feel comfortable. You just have to feel it out for yourself.
Since your sister is planning the hen party, would she feel comfortable reaching out to your friend about it?
Post # 10
Yeah, definitely don’t do this. If you asked me this, I would feel compelled to say yes but I REALLY wouldn’t want to.
Post # 11
I was hoping this was about butts.
Post # 12
It’s always up to someone to offer to host or suggest their home as a venue and extremely inappropriate to ask.
Post # 13
Please do not ask. Also, was anticipating butts. Poo.
Post # 14
It’s so easy to confuse the Parties forum with the Panties forum.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I find it rude to ask. You’re putting her in a tough spot.