Is this too cheeky?

posted 6 months ago in Parties
Post # 17
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636 posts
Busy bee

No no no. Really rude sorry.

Post # 18
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571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I wouldn’t ask but I would probably talk about wedding stuff and mention (along with everything else) that my sister was scouting for venues and maybe ask if she has any recommendations. That opens it up for “why don’t you just have it here!” or “yea I know these places…”

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

happybridetobe1988 : Honestly I think it’s pretty crappy that you say you are really close to this girl and don’t even have her as one of your bridesmaids but now that she has a nice big house her house is good enough for you to ask her to host a party. I’m surprised no one else has brought that point up yet. Anyways if I was your friend I would think it was pretty ballsy to ask to use my house but not have me in your wedding. Don’t do it bee!

Post # 20
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427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

SVandy60918 :  What this girl wasn’t even asked to be a bridesmaid but you suggest she practically rub salt in her wound by talking about the wedding in hopes that she can use her house for the wedding. How am I the only one that doesn’t she the complete rudeness in that! Like hey you aren’t good enough to be a bridesmaid but your house will do just fine!

Post # 22
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571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

soexcited123 :  if she wasn’t invited to the wedding at all I would agree with you but you don’t have to refrain from talking about wedding things to people who aren’t in the wedding party. I’d be happy to help my sister in law to be with anything she needs for their upcoming wedding. My old roommate is welcome to talk totme about anything wedding related and iieven helped her out while she was designing her engagement ring, I’m not going to be butt hurt if I’m not a bridesmaid though.  Really any of my friends I’d help out with their weddings whether I’m a bridesmaid or not because I’m not a crappy friend and my friends aren’t crappy either so I should be able to talk to them about wedding things. Her friend clearly felt the same way. It would have been rude to put her on the spot and make her feel pressured but just talking about wedding things is rubbing salt in the wound? I’ve never felt wounded because a friend didn’t have me as a bridesmaid and I certainly would be like “oh I’m not a bridesmaid? Then I guess I’m chopped liver you better not think I’d lift a finger for you now.”🙄 Where all of your guests bridesmaids or groomsmen? 

happybridetobe1988 :  I’m glad it worked out for you! You’re not a crappy friend for thinking your friend is still, you know, your friend after not being a bridesmaid.

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