Post # 1
Guys, well more than likely gals, need your views on something.
My girlfriends sister is getting married in just over 6 weeks. Is it too close to her wedding to ask my girlfriend to marry me?
I had planned to do this 8 weeks ago on a weekend away but events out of our control meant we had to cancel the weekend and so me cancel the proposal. I could easily do it and, if she wanted, not say anything to anyone until after the wedding, if she could hold it in. The only problem with that is I wanted to talk to her father beforehand; not for permission as such but more for his blessing. I know rightly he would let it slip before the sisters wedding if he was told to keep quiet so thats not an option. I dont want to take the shine of the sisters wedding at all but I still want to propose soon having already put it off once.
Post # 3
I don’t think it is too soon at all. How close are the sisters? Can you ask the sister that is getting married if she would mind? I would hate to see a proposal held up because of someone elses wedding. Just don’t propose to her at her sister’s wedding and you should be fine 🙂
Post # 4
I got engaged 4 weeks before my best friend’s wedding (where I was the MOH), and I don’t think anyone thought it was too close or any sort of problem. Of course it may be different since they’re in the same family, but as long as you don’t think your gf is going to blow off responsibilities or excitement for her sister’s approaching wedding I think it’s fine.
Post # 5
Hmmm, don’t think I would like to ask the sister, wouldn’t like anyone else to know apart from her father, and her mother if he tells her 🙂
There’s no danger of her blowing off responsibilities; i wouldn’t even be talking about dates, etc, if anyone asks in her sisters company as it could take the shine off the upcoming wedding.
No danger of doing it at the wedding, I would be shot!
Post # 6
It would be fine. If someone brings up the wedding dates or anything, just say “(fiance) is busy helping (siser), so we’ll figure things out a bit later – one wedding at a time” kinda thing. You shouldn’t have a problem with just the engagement.
Post # 7
I would say go for it! You’re also going to be sparing everyone at the wedding from asking her (and you) when will you guys be getting engaged. I’m sure she’ll be excited to have that great piece of jewelry to wear for the wedding and everyone can enjoy the sisters wedding and know they will have yours to look forward to. IMO, it would be really selfish of her sister to get upset about you and your girl getting engaged 6 weeks before the wedding – you are not stealing her day in any way!
Good luck with your proposal!!
Post # 8
I say you’d be fine! Contrary to some people’s belief, brides get ONE day. So as long as you don’t propose on the wedding day (which it sounds like you have no intention of doing) you should be fine! Good luck!
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think it’s perfectly fine. Brides get one day, not a week, or a month. There’s no reason that he sister should be upset if you propose now!
Post # 10
I think it’s fine. If the sister gets mad then she really needs to grow up. It won’t take anything away from the wedding day at all. Like others said, the bride gets 1 day, not a week or a month.
Post # 11
It should be fine, but like others have said, if you think it could be an issue ask the sister, i doubt she would say no becuase thats just childish and that you would have gotten her “ok” just in case she would of had a problem without you asking.
Post # 12
No, you’re fine, do it soon. But I do really like afbacher’s suggestion, deflect questions about your wedding by saying “one wedding at a time.” If the two of you have a united front on this and let the sister know you aren’t going to do any planning until after her wedding, all feelings will be spared. Just stick to it! Enjoy the glow of the engagement, no need to rush to plan.
Post # 13
No I think you’re fine. It would be different if it were a week or so before. Now is good because she’ll have a chance to get some attention but by the time her sister’s wedding rolls around it’ll be “old news” so she won’t steal her sister’s thunder.
Post # 14
6 weeks out is PLENTY of time, IMO. I don’t think anyone would view it as trying to “take away” her sister’s spotlight.
And don’t worry too much about making the proposal “perfect” (i.e., it doesn’t have to be while you are on vacation, or at a fancy dinner, or anything like that). The fact that she loves you, and you love her, and are asking her will make it perfect!! Good luck, let us know how it goes! 🙂
Post # 15
i dont think it’s too soon at all. i’m sure she would love it and the excitement over the wedding would die down by the time of the wedding.
Post # 16
Go for it! I fully agree that brides get only a day (or maaaaaaybe a weekend, depending), and not a month or a season. I wouldn’t propose AT her wedding, but otherwise I think you’re in the clear! Pre-congratulations!