Post # 1
Okay — my mom is going to put money down on our venues TODAY (she was going to go Friday, but emailed this morning and said she might as well stop by on the way home from work this afternoon!!), which makes everything feel a LOT more real! Yippee!!!
Our reception, as some of you may have gathered, will be held on a DRY college campus – no wine, no bar, no champagne toast. We’re hoping for a lively party despite that. We’re also strongly considering doing an afterparty at a hip bar downtown. Unfortunately, our town kind of shuts down by like 12, 12:30. Not a lotta night life.
Here’s what I’m wondering:
reception STARTS with cake
then plated dinner (6ish?)
then general happiness
cookies about an hour before the thing wraps up (maybe 10ish?)
then the young crowd can move on to the after party for a few hours of general revelry and fun
Is it crazy to do cake first? Am I off my rocker? The thought came to me right after I woke up this morning, so I’m willing to part with it, haha, if you all think it’s too strange.
Post # 3
Well its not something I’ve seen before but if that’s how you wanna do it- go for it! I just wonder if your guests will eat that and not be too into the entree? But I like the idea of doing everything early and having an afterparty, that’ll be a fun continuation to the day!
Post # 4
I’m not sure why you want to do cake first I guess? I wonder if people’s appetites would get ruined.
Personally I like dessert AFTER dinner.
It’s not like you’re not having dinner…maybe ppl would get concerned you’re not serving food!
Post # 5
Hmmm…. Maybe instead of doing the cake at the beginning you could do it in the middle of dinner, right after people finish toasting the happy couple? You keep the drama of the moment and gain the extra time, but don’t have to worry about grabbing your guests’ attention or delaying the food.
Post # 6
Personally, I’m not doing it. Just because I’ve always seen cake served after dinner & that’s the way my Wedding Planner has it worked out for me. Also, I only crave sweets after a meal! BUT it could be something new you bring to the table…if it’s what you want, DO IT! I’d definitely ask your friends advice, too, about doing this and see what they think about it…since they’ll be the ones there! 🙂
Post # 7
We are CUTTING our cake first, but thats so it can go in back to get plated while we eat our dindin and get served in a timely manner
Post # 8
Hmm… okay. Just tossing ideas around. 🙂
Post # 9
I know a lot of people CUT the cake first so that it will be served right after dinner, but I have never eaten cake first.
Just because it’s not been done doesn’t mean it can’t be done. The schedule is whatever you want it to be. If you want your cake first, eat your cake first!
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
Hmmm its definitely different! I personally love dessert, but I am not sure that I’d want it before my dinner! I tend to inhale dessert, and knowing me, I’d ruin my dinner because I’d hork down the entire piece of cake….and part of Mr. Buttons’ 😉
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Personally, I’m a HUGE dessert fan, but I’d totally ruin my dinner if I had dessert first. I like the idea of cutting it first and then serving it after!
Post # 12
Nah, I say start with the dinner as well, I think you could def cut it first
Post # 13
We’re doing our cake first too. Our ceremony will be late – ending about 5:30pm – so people will be hungry and the sparkling wine, with which they’ll be welcomed might knock them out without anything eaten before… dinner will start 8 pm (reception starts at about 6:30-7).
Post # 14
I think the cake should be the grand finale, after the meal and dances
Post # 15
You can still cut the cake at the beginning of the reception without serving it then. Isn’t that how it’s done sometimes? The couple cuts the cake, then dinner is served… while everyone is eating, someone in the back is cutting the cake for after dinner?
Post # 16
agree with teaadntoast and all the others who suggested that it be cut before dinner, but served after. I think that’s a great idea!