(Closed) Is this too much time to ask off at a relatively new job?

posted 8 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It depends on your job. My last one it was like pulling teeth to be allowed to leave early. My job now I mentioned how I needed to go to the dentist and my boss told me to just take the next available appointment. I’ve already mentioned how I’ll probably need 2 weeks off for the wedding/honeymoon and my boss told me I could have 3 🙂

Post # 4
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Honestly I think any employer expects to deal with time off if an employee is getting married. I wouldn’t worry about it though! It can’t hurt to ask and it is good that you already gave your boss a heads up.

I’m new at my job too but have had to miss quite a few days of work (including today) for health issues. I have dr orders and everything for all the days but I get that worried of being fired feeling because I am pretty new as well. I don’t know when is the time to stop feeling worried about taking time off. We don’t get vacation days or any set days off though so it worries me for sure.

Post # 5
2640 posts
Sugar bee

What is their vaction policy?  Are you accumulating time with every paycheck?  Do they provide a week after 6 months? Two weeks a year?

You’ll never know until you ask.  It sounds like they might be pretty reasonable.  But it’s hard to know how much your absence will impact them, for that long.


Good luck.

Post # 6
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Couple of questions.  How long have you been there?  Do they already generally know about you  needing time off around then?

Those are two key questions.

Post # 7
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I think that as long as you have the vacation days, it sounds like your boss is pretty flexible. I think that’s a very reasonable time to take off. I ended up taking 2 1/2 weeks off for my wedding. Our honeymoon was 10 days and I needed some time before the wedding to make sure things got done. So, no, I don’t think asking for 7 working days is a lot.

Post # 8
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@rheabee80: In the original post she said:

I have been at this job for 6 months now, I work hard, and I haven’t asked for a vacation.


I verbally already notified my boss of the plans, and the possible dates, and he didn’t seem concerned, just told me to let him know.

I don’t think it would be a problem if you already talked to your boss and he seemed ok with it!

Post # 9
1254 posts
Bumble bee

As a manager, as long as you have enough PTO days available to you, it does not matter to me when or how you choose to use it. Most managers will know that a wedding precedes a honeymoon, so taking 7 days off is not unusual. I suggest that you have a coverage plan when you present your request to your supervisor. She/he will more likely approve your request knowing that your tasks/responsibilities will be covered during your absence.  Your plan should include when/how you plan on training your replacement, advance out-of-office notifications, etc.

Post # 11
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It all depends on how much PTO you accumulate a year.  If you’ve accumulated enough time, your boss shouldn’t care if you want to use it all at once.  But if you haven’t accumulated 7 days worth of PTO then your boss would have every right to not let you take it.

Post # 12
1288 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

I actually used unpaid leave for my honeymoon. I hadn’t accumulated enough for the drive to Indiana plus the honeymoon, so I went halfsies with leave and PTO. Supervisors were completely supporting of this since weddings are kind of a big deal 🙂

Post # 13
16196 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Totally depends on your workplace. Is this time off counting against your PTO? I am sure your boss will understand, I’d just suggest talking to him about it so that you are both on the same page.

Post # 14
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MissBoPeep:thank you!  I hadn’t seen the original posting.

If you have been there for 6 months and you have been up front with you supervisor about the event and the time frame I don’t think it is too much to request. 

As a recruiter I have seen hiring managers/supervisors be very upset with new hires who after a few weeks tell them about a need for time off for something that has been in the works for an extended period of time, and it has led to withdrawl of job offer or termination. 

I think your circumstance is totally different though and definitely think you should talk with your supervisor about all of those days, it sounds like they won’t have a problem with it.

Post # 15
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If it makes you feel any better I just started a new job 3 weeks ago…. i’m taking 2 and a half weeks off this month to go abroad prepare the wedding (as I”m getting married in Brazil), and I’m taking 3 or 4 weeks off in December for the wedding itself…


Obviously I dont have that much leave, but I made sure my bosses were aware of this before I joined and they’re FINE with it.  You only get married once. You can always get a new job. Sounds like a no brainer to me!

Post # 16
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Totally depends–ask and see. At my company, unpaid leave is a no-no, no matter what. But if you have the vacation hours, they don’t care when/how you take it cuz you’ve earned it. Your boss didn’t seem too concerned–just drop him a message about it.

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