(Closed) Is this too much to ask of the guests?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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Busy bee

I think if you explain that the information will allow the guests admission onto base that it might help.  I guess I think it sounds like the information that a hotel might use to identify a guest, and that’s not too big of a deal.  I would also check to see if it’s something that must be provided in advance or if it’s a day of situation, and if there’s a simplified method for groups.

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@HonoraryNerd:  What about people who don’t have drivers licenses? I really do not think a name and drivers license number is that much personal info.

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

It’s not like you’re asking for their social insurance number and bank account, it’s just a drivers license! I see no issues with it. 

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would be slightly annoyed at having to dig my drivers license out of my purse, and record the information on to the RSVP, but I’d still come to the wedding, and I would think twice about giving you my drivers licence number. Its not the least bit similar to my SSN (if it were I might be able to remember it).  It just doesn’t feel like information that would be too personal to give a friend or family member.  I flash my licence to strangers all of the time.  I don’t see the big deal.

Post # 67
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@HonoraryNerd:  Call the Officer’s Club directly and ask the events person. I work freelance and have had several jobs on different bases. As well as I live near a base (and visit with my Mom who is retired militaty spouse) and DH was in a band that played on the base.

Some bases, only need to show ID (like DL) when entering the gate. Other bases had a Visitor’s Center where I had to go in and get proof that I had a ‘sponsor’ (who I sent my info to). 

Dont take it just from your Future Mother-In-Law mouth–go to the experts who do it every day. 

Post # 68
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Helper bee

you should just be able to coordinate w/ SF on base to havea a list of people who are going to show for the wedding.  once they get to base, hand over their ID, get their names checked off of the list, and then go.  some may have to open their cars for inspection but that’s essentially what they do for graduation ceremonies at various bases. 

Post # 69
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Buzzing bee

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@Merinda1994:  Civilians with NO military ID can just go to your visitor’s center and get a pass to get on post for no reason?  If I am misunderstanding, could you please clarify?

I had to go to a visitor’s center several years ago when I was traveling and driving a rented car, but I had to have a military ID to get the pass.

Post # 70
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am frequently on military bases, and all I’ve ever had to do is give them my ID at the gate and tell them where I was going.  It’s really not as hard as you’re making it out to be.  I’d call the club and ask them specifically what you need before you start freaking out about getting all of this information.

But yes, I think providing my drivers license and DOB on an RSVP may be too much to ask.

Post # 71
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Busy bee

@HonoraryNerd:  I would feel very weird about that. But I’d say it depends on your group of friends and family whether they’ll be understanding or offended.

Post # 72
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Busy bee

@HonoraryNerd:  It wouldn’t bother me. My license is no big deal, just don’t ask me for a blood sample (I don’t like needles!). However, if you already foresee problems and additional stress for yourself, it may not be worth the effort. 

Post # 73
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Bee Keeper

@HonoraryNerd:  It would depend what the information was. Providing my name/DOB/license plate number really would not bother me at all. I don’t really see what the issue is.

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@HonoraryNerd:  I can’t belive how many people are bothered by this. I think it depends where you live. Do you have a lot of bases near you? Do you know a lot of people that are military, or come from military families? I was actually a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a military wedding, so we had to give our full names too bc they needed a list of guests for the gate guard. However, a lot of her guests already had base stickers, so it wasn’t a problem. I do think it will be more of a headache getting that info, but it would be worth it for the discount.

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Is the base Fort Worth? I looked it up and it appears you need to provide a list of guests with full name and DOB. So you would still need to get some data, possibly.

Maybe before you worry about this part you should go see the Officer’s Club and if it’s even a venue you like and will consider. You can ask during the tour what the process is for guests getting on base. It may be easier, as others have said, to have a bus bring guests onto the base from your hotel. This is what our friends did. If you have alcohol, you also don’t want guests driving all over the base afterward lost. GPS is often not correct on bases and they are VERY strict about alcohol and driving.

 

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