(Closed) Is this too much to ask of the guests?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 77
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@HonoraryNerd:  Okay – if I looked up the right one (and it looks like there’s only 1), their site says there are no gate restrictions for your guests. So it doesn’t seem you’d need to worry about this at all!

Post # 78
1832 posts
Buzzing bee

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@antisocialite:  Can I ask where you found that?

Post # 80
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

As some previous posters have said, I would double check the requirements.  When I went to a wedding on a base I had to give the guard my ID, insurance card and let him check the inside of the car and trunk (I wouldn’t quite call it a “search” more of a once over).  I didn’t have to provide anything in advance.  I will say though that it was a little inconvenient.  Plus, at the end of the night many people were worried about getting pulled over after having a few drinks.  No one was driving drunk but they were giving people a hard time if they had anything to drink and got behind the wheel on base.  Guests also had to be more careful about their behavior. It wasn’t the most fun wedding I’ve ever been to.

I personally would have no problem giving that info if it was necessary.  Just explain the situation and why they require it. 

Post # 81
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Fourth Presbyterian Church, Chicago, IL & Cheney Mansion, Oak Park, IL

We had to do that for a sorority formal in college. I think it was annoying to track down. That would be my concern. I would understand why you were doing and I don’t think its too much to ask, but it is a bunch of info and esp if people don’t rsvp (I lol’ed at your “Mexicans don’t rsvp” because I could just hear my friend saying that.) or show up uninvited it could get really annoying.

On the other hand, if they don’t follow directions, you only have to make that so much of your problem. If your family can help you both spread the word and gather the info, I wouldn’t rule it out.

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