(Closed) Is this too much to ask?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
105 posts
Blushing bee

Are you allowing them to wear different dresses? I think maybe it might be hard for them to find a dress that meets all requirements or they are just unable to visualize your vision. So maybe just send them a few links to dresses you do like?

I don’t think you sound to demanding, especially because you keep de dresses within a reasonable prize and you are giving the belts.

Post # 4
1274 posts
Bumble bee

I feel like if you have those stipulations, maybe pick out like 5 -10 dresses that fit your criteria, send a picture of all to the girls and let them choose their favourites from there. The price point is great, but I feel like you will end up with a lot of variation here, especially since you want them to be worn with cowboy boots and with a belt. Do the girls already own cowboy boots?


Post # 5
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s a little detailed.

For the saggy boobs part.. I mean.. surely they’d be wearing a strapless bar or something with it? So they shouldn’t be ALL that saggy?!

It might be an issue to find dresses within your price ranges, that also fit all of your criteria.

As with pp’s, I would suggest finding a few dresses that you like and make suggestions. If you can’t find ones you like with your own criteria.. how will your girls?

Post # 6
2718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@LadyIrene:  +1 to sending ideas/stores to get these dresses so they have an idea of what you want. It’s hard to visualize exasctly what you want.

Post # 8
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@avonleaR:  Sounds good to me. If you insisted on strapless I’d be upset. I’d then have to find a strapless bra etc.

Post # 9
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think it’s that unreasonable, mainly because you are giving them a small budget which is awesome. I hate it when brides are like “here, buy this $200 dress that you hate. my day, my decision!”

Take a look at lulus.com or some other inexpensive dress websites to get some more inspiration and send them some photo examples of stuff you like. It might help them if they are able to see it visually rather than try to imagine what you are looking for.

Post # 10
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I did the same thing with my BM’s. Same color (black), langth (floor) and they had to compliment eachother as well as my dress (obviously lol), I also askd them t0 wear flats. They paid for their own dresses ( which were alot more expensif than i originally thought) so im being a little more leniant on the shoes, one of my girls has a pair of really low heals that will look nice so shes going to wear those.  I really dont think your being demanding, you arnt making them all wear the same dress and it isnt 600 dollars so i think your being VERY reasonable

Post # 11
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m very short torsoed, with a petite frame, and am mostly leg, so the “knee length dress” is pretty much never knee length for me.  That would be the only thing I might personally have difficulty with. 

Otherwise, everything else seems very reasonable.

Post # 12
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I dont think it is all that unreasonable. I would show them a selection of dresses that you think are suitable and get them to choose from those.

Post # 13
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Requirements sound reasonable to me!

Post # 14
2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it’s reasonable. You’re giving them a myriad of choices on color, straps, even style, and you’re considerate with the budget for the dresses, too. Send some photo ideas to them of what you want, and it is perfectly acceptable for your voice to be heard among all the suggestions.

Post # 15
1274 posts
Bumble bee

@avonleaR:  ahhh I see. Yeah, i can see how that might be frustrating. Do you have Pinterest? Or can you create a board with the type of dresses you like maybe if you show them your inspiration, they might be able to focus their search a bit better? 


Post # 16
5800 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s reasonable but if I were your bm I would want you to send links/pics/examples. It’s pretty stressful to try and find a dress that fits the brides vision.

Keep in mind that model pics almost always make dresses look shorter than they would be on a person of avg height

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