(Closed) Is this too passive/aggressive?

posted 8 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

haha, I like it.  and if anybody asks just smile sweetly and say “oh, I just did it randomly”

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

haha I think it’s a great idea. And it is a beautiful quote.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I love it! It’s a good quote, and I am all about being passive agressive in certain situations. Laughing

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I like it, it’s a bit lengthy though…

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I LOVE that idea.  You’re entitled to make a political / humanity statement at your wedding 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hey, in that situation, I think you’d be entitled to be aggressive-aggressive, so passive-aggressive is a step nicer.  LOL

Post # 9
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Helper bee

The quote is beautiful.  But your method is passive-aggressive and (at best) tacky.  What makes your belief(s) any more valid than theirs?  How would you feel if someone made a *passive-aggressive* political statement at your wedding based on the assumption that you wouldn’t respond because either you didn’t know the source of their statement or you wouldn’t want to make a scene at your wedding? 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I think its fine to use the quote, but I do think it is a little…rude… to specifically seat certain people at it. To me, it is an underhanded way to stick it to them, at your WEDDING, which should a happy event that celebrates love.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think it’s a beautiful quote and should be put on the table…with the right intentions.  How would you like it if you went to a wedding where “homophobes” intentionally put a quote that was directly from something that was anti same sex marriage and then set you and your husband at that table…just to dig their claws in and make a point….something tells me you wouldn’t like it.  These people are coming to share the joy of your marriage.  It’s not the place for you to make a statement, even if you don’t think they’ll know where it came from.  I think that everyone needs to look at it from the opposite point of view.  Sure it’s funny, I giggled, but if someone were to post something that said, “I’m going to put all my pro gay marriage friends at this table with a quote that supports same sex marriage” the tune would be drastically different.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MissCosmopolitan: What makes her believes more valid is that a) its her wedding and b) she is defending people’s rights rather than trying to take them away.

It’s a lovely idea.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@baby:  . . . and they are her guests, and will also (soon) be part of her family.   

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s very clever but the other bees might be right. Don’t use this day to one up your family. They’re here to celebrate your union even if they don’t agree with your marital beliefs. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Even if they don’t know where it came from, it’s pretty obvious when you read it what it’s about. I’m not sure what the purpose would be for doing it. Are you hoping it will change their minds? I don’t think it’s going to be that easy. Do you want to make them uncomfortable if they figure it out? Do you want to secretly have a laugh with everyone in on the joke if they don’t? Either way it doesn’t seem very nice of you.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

Yeah, it’s a little on the snarky side, but I’m also of the opinion that it’s okay 🙂

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