Post # 1
I have two degrees in English and am currently in law school, so for my table numbers, I’m using quotes from literature about love and marriage in a frame with the number.
I totally want to take a quote from Goodridge v. Department of Health (the Mass. Supreme Court decision that allowed gay marriage there) and put all of my FI’s homophobe relatives at that particular table. Probably none of them would even know that the quote came from a case permitting gay marriage. They’d probably think, “Oh, that’s just Button and her lawyer stuff.” I think the quote is beautiful, personally:
“Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support. Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family. Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition. It is undoubtedly for these concrete reasons, as well as for its intimately personal significance, that civil marriage has long been termed a “civil right.” Without the right to choose to marry one is excluded from the full range of human experience.”
Post # 3
haha, I like it. and if anybody asks just smile sweetly and say “oh, I just did it randomly”
Post # 4
haha I think it’s a great idea. And it is a beautiful quote.
Post # 5
I love it! It’s a good quote, and I am all about being passive agressive in certain situations.
Post # 6
I like it, it’s a bit lengthy though…
Post # 7
I LOVE that idea. You’re entitled to make a political / humanity statement at your wedding 🙂
Post # 8
Hey, in that situation, I think you’d be entitled to be aggressive-aggressive, so passive-aggressive is a step nicer. LOL
Post # 9
The quote is beautiful. But your method is passive-aggressive and (at best) tacky. What makes your belief(s) any more valid than theirs? How would you feel if someone made a *passive-aggressive* political statement at your wedding based on the assumption that you wouldn’t respond because either you didn’t know the source of their statement or you wouldn’t want to make a scene at your wedding?
Post # 10
I think its fine to use the quote, but I do think it is a little…rude… to specifically seat certain people at it. To me, it is an underhanded way to stick it to them, at your WEDDING, which should a happy event that celebrates love.
Post # 11
I think it’s a beautiful quote and should be put on the table…with the right intentions. How would you like it if you went to a wedding where “homophobes” intentionally put a quote that was directly from something that was anti same sex marriage and then set you and your husband at that table…just to dig their claws in and make a point….something tells me you wouldn’t like it. These people are coming to share the joy of your marriage. It’s not the place for you to make a statement, even if you don’t think they’ll know where it came from. I think that everyone needs to look at it from the opposite point of view. Sure it’s funny, I giggled, but if someone were to post something that said, “I’m going to put all my pro gay marriage friends at this table with a quote that supports same sex marriage” the tune would be drastically different.
Post # 12
@MissCosmopolitan: What makes her believes more valid is that a) its her wedding and b) she is defending people’s rights rather than trying to take them away.
It’s a lovely idea.
Post # 13
@baby: . . . and they are her guests, and will also (soon) be part of her family.
Post # 14
It’s very clever but the other bees might be right. Don’t use this day to one up your family. They’re here to celebrate your union even if they don’t agree with your marital beliefs.
Post # 15
Even if they don’t know where it came from, it’s pretty obvious when you read it what it’s about. I’m not sure what the purpose would be for doing it. Are you hoping it will change their minds? I don’t think it’s going to be that easy. Do you want to make them uncomfortable if they figure it out? Do you want to secretly have a laugh with everyone in on the joke if they don’t? Either way it doesn’t seem very nice of you.
Post # 16
Yeah, it’s a little on the snarky side, but I’m also of the opinion that it’s okay 🙂