(Closed) Is this too tacky and/or inappropriate?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think people should have to pay for it.  Could you have fake bidding chips or something?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmmm. I think this really depends on your crowd. If you have some people who would get into it and make it fun, I could see it going over, but if you don’t or it would alienate people, don’t do it.

Because your grandpa would do the auction, at least it wouldn’t be too raunchy.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

It really depends on the crowd at your wedding – if you think your friends and family would have fun with it, then I think it’s great. But for example, I know that the crowd that will be at my wedding wouldn’t really be into it at all. It all depends!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Auction for what?  I think it might be cute to say you were donating the proceeds to a charity or something, but otherwise I think I am a little confused =)

Post # 7
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i also think it depends on your crowd. personally, i’ve never been a fan of the money dance or anything that you are asking extra for money at a wedding, just because you already come to a wedding with a gift, often money, so why should i have to give more?

Post # 9
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t really care for the dollar dances because it feels awkward to me and can sometimes go on and on.  I can see the garter auction going the same way.  It could take a good chunk of time away from your dancing and DJ that you’ve paid good money for.

Post # 10
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1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

i do think it’s awesome that your grandfather is an auctioneer though. if i were a guest I’d think it’d be pretty cool, but i agree that maybe using fake or non-monetary bids would be a little safer if you’re worried.  maybe like bidding well-wishes or something? i don’t know how you’d put a value to that though..hmm.

Post # 11
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4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think its ok, but I have seen where people auction off the brides shoe or the bride, ect. So I think its ok! Maybe its usts us folks up around here!!!!!

Post # 12
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, I was wondering where the money would go too.  I guess if it would go to charity….

My biggest concern, and maybe this is because I have doubts my crowd would like this, but I would be so embarrassed if I tried this, and no one cared to bid.  Then like what would happen?  I couldn’t even get a bail our from my dad or brother, because having your dad buy your garter seems too creepy. 

Post # 13
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1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My friend did this at her wedding in Ohio, and it was more than a little awkward. On the bride’s side, it’s not the norm at all. The (real) auctioneer was a friend of the groom, though, so maybe this is a ‘thing’ on his side? Anyway, I thought it was awkward and really stopped the flow of the reception (for almost 10 minutes!). But if it’s common where you are (like the money dances are here) and you can find a way to incorporate it, then more power to you!

Post # 14
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

What if rather than auctioning it for money he auctioned it for kisses or silly tasks? You could give him a list of escalating “prices”. One kiss, two kisses, high five the groom’s mom? Something like that. I think it would be awesome to hear a REAL auctioneer at a wedding, but if it were for money I would be pretty uncomfortable with it. If you had a fun crowd it could turn out really well!

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