(Closed) Is this unreasonable?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 

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okqueenbee:  I actually would have reacted the same as you… my son is now 5 and im still nervous about these things.

Anyway I think the attempting to/wanting to feed your son rice cereal without your permission is bad, not only because that should be the parents decision but also because it may have been something that you wanted to do yourself.

Also if someone is looking after your baby they should ask you if its ok if they take them out, a child is a different matter I guess but taking a baby out for a drive on (from what your saying) not one of the safest roads :S

I also get your point about if it were walmart it would be better because then at least there is a purpose i.e. to actually buy something, but to take a baby for a drive makes no sense at all. I also would not be happy about them driving with their health problems but I guess I also read the news a lot and also get a bit paranoid

I think you did right by the email and should not take offence by their reply, remember that your are the mum and you know whats right for your baby. With time you’ll get more confident with the grandparents but it is not right at all that your Mother-In-Law is trying to make decisions for you, stand your ground

Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

To be honest…yes, you sound kind of crazy.

Your Mother-In-Law called you on the real intent of your email.  I don’t think you can be mad at her for that.  

I’m no telling you to loosen the reigns, because hey, it’s your baby.  But you are being a bit extreme and in that case should prepare yourself for other people’s reactions.  

Post # 33
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Honey bee

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Mrs.Sawyertobe:  +1 on the calming down a bit. 

OP, if you trust the grandparents to babysit (keep in mind, they did a raise a child–as in your DH), then you need to trust they will make good decisions. I don’t think they need to ask your permission to do everything with your child. Now, if they want to live the state or do something drastic, that is different. But if you keep having this much anxiety, you are going to have some major stress issues in the future.

Remember, you asked them babysit for you. They are doing you a favor. You shouldn’t be giving them the second degree and be up in arms about every little thing they do. 

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