(Closed) Is This Weird?!?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is this Weird?!?
    No. I can understand wanting privacy on Christmas Morning! : (20 votes)
    17 %
    A little. But to each their own, I guess. : (43 votes)
    37 %
    Yes! It's not very considerate to exclude people on Christmas! : (52 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think it’s weird to exclude yourselves COMPLETELY. Was celebrating that morning not an option, then going to the extended family celebration in the afternoon?

    I don’t know that an 11-month old baby REALLY gets that it’s Christmas anyways! And it seems terribly rude, knowing that family was flying in AND is excited.

    I could never do it–I’d feel terribly rude and selfish. Christmas is a family event; i can understand wanting some immediate family alone time, but this feels a little drastic

    You should make a rule: no presents unless you COME to Christmas! Wink

    Post # 4
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    2512 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think that the holidays can become stressful at times, especially when tons of family are around. Sometimes you just want some privacy and want to really soak up the moment without people around making it chaotic. I wouldn’t take it personal.

    Edit: The fact that family are flying in just for this kind of changes it a bit. They could at least do x-mas dinner with them.

    Post # 5
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i agree with ejs – i think this is rude and selfish of your bil and sil. holidays are supposed to be about coming together as a family in my opinion. i could understand if they wanted some alone time, like opening presents by themselves in the morning or something, but this seems extreme. i would not be happy.

    Post # 6
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @OP, are they hiding out for Christmas Morning or for ALL of Christmas Day?

    I can understand wanting privacy Christmas Morning (like your poll suggests) but i got the impression it was an all-day hide out.

    Post # 8
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    That’s pretty rude, particularly to the grandparents.  I totally understand when people want their kids to have Christmas morning in their own home so they aren’t  willing to travel.. but if people are traveling for the sole purpose of seeing you it’s pretty selfish to just shut them out. 

    Post # 9
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    1537 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think it’s selfish, especially if the in-laws are flying in. That’s actually just plain rude. This kind of thing is unheard of my family. It would be understandable if they wanted one day to themselves because the holidays can be stressful, but to exclude everyone from Christmas eve and Christmas is sort of mean!

    Post # 10
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yeah that seems weird.  We all spend the morning with our own little family then the siblings all bring their kids together for christmas dinner.  I can’t imagine ducking out town knowing people are flying in.  Seems a little harsh.  but it’s not like the kid will remember it at all, and maybe by next year they’ll have loosened up a bit.

    Post # 11
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I actually think it is a wonderful thing! I actually told my husband that this will be the LAST Christmas that we are going to spend at home because if we are not here then we are not expected to be EVERYWHERE else with EVERYBODY else! Trying to make plans that suit everybody is impossible & then it ends up that people do not get to enjoy their holiday. I don’t think it is selfish at all. Think about if you are in their shoes…. wouldn’t it be wonderful to experience your first family Christmas the way you want. Nope! I think it is selfish for people not to understand what they are doing & why.

    I say Good For Them!!!!

    Post # 12
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    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I wouldn’t think it was weird IF they had made the plans before the grandparents. I have no children, but I am having my first Christmas married, and my husband wants to do a little private celebration/tradition thing without my family (I got this year because we spent Christmas week on a cruise with his family last year). HOWEVER, if someone was going out of their way to come see us I would have to say, “I’m sorry, honey, its just not right to treat someone like that.”

    Post # 13
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    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I’m with farmgirl.  If this had been their plan from the beginning, one they could have shared with the in-laws to possibly impact their travel plans, then fine.  As it is, it’s rude.  If they want some alone time as a nuclear family, do it before or after since the baby doesn’t know what day Christmas is anyway.  Just my 2 cents.

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I mean, I see their point, but they could have given more notice so the in-laws didnt arrange travel plans for nothing.  Darling Husband and I love our privacy.  Our little one will be about 5 months old next Christmas, and I plan to spend it just our family.  We can see the rest of the family in the days after.  Maybe thats just us though

    Post # 15
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    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I can see them wanting the alone time with just their little family, but since they know the in-laws are specifically coming out to spend Christmas with their first grandchild, I think it would be nice to be able to accomodate them for a bit of time at least one of the two days.  But, that’s just me…

    Post # 16
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My little one is 18 months, last year was our first Christmas.  I understand and see the desire to have Christmas morning together as a seperate family.  BUT not excluding the family for the holiday.  Time needs to be spent with the family, even a few hours.  Whether the parents like it or not, the baby is part of the entire family and socially the baby has a real need and will continue to have a need for the whole family.

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