(Closed) is this weird or appropriate??

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think it’s ok as long as his wife is invited, she doesn’t have to be in the wedding party, but they should be seated together at the reception definately

Post # 4
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s fine… I have a matron of honor and her husband is just a guest… it’s not like you can include your groomsmen and every one of their spouses / dates/ lovers / crushes up with them :p

She’ll only have to sit alone for a little bit, they’ll be reunited in the end, I promise!

Post # 5
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bump:  I think that is fine and very thoughtful of your Fiance to want to include your brother.  As long as the wife is invited I see nothing wrong with it.


Could his wife play another part in the wedding? Maybe do a reading or something?

Post # 6
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it is totally fine. If possible, I would really try to sit them together at the reception (like PP said)

Post # 7
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My husband was best man in a wedding a little over a month after we got married, and I was ok with him being in the wedding, I was not ok with the fact that I was not invited.. I was invited to the dance (not ceremony or dinner) a couple of days before, but didn’t go.. I was hurt that I wasn’t able to see him all dressed up in the tux that we had to pay for :(.. So yeah, itll be fine as long as she can go I think! 🙂

Post # 8
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it is fine 🙂

Post # 9
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think it’s fine. How long have they been married though? If he’s like a sister to you (or him) maybe you should come up with another role for her like a reader or escort.

Post # 10
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

totally fine. My husband has been in tons of weddings that I was just a guest at. Additionally, we had his brother as our best man, and his wife was a guest. I don’t think couples expect to both be included in a bridal party all the time.

Post # 11
13289 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As long as she’s invited, then you’re fine!  My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband is not in the wedding. 

Post # 12
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It’s fine.  My cousin is a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and her fiance is going to be a guest.  He doesn’t know my fiance that well, so being a part of the Wedding Party isn’t going to crush him.  I doubt he would want to be anyway, just his personality.

Post # 13
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My future husband was best man and a groomsmen for 2 weddings (2 weekends in a row). I had no part in either of them. I don’t mind. This is a day to say “hey, this person is important to me and I want them to be by my side to steady my nerves and be a pillar of support.” You don’t need to include his wife, so long as she’s invited and knows she is welcome. Unless she’s a super high maintenance woman, she’ll totally understand.

Post # 14
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s fine.

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