(Closed) Is this weird or normal?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m of two sides of this here.  DH has said that if his ex got remarried, he would want to meet the man his son would be living with, no question.

OTOH, I have been with him 5 years, and have never met his ex.  She has never expressed a desire to meet me, and I really don’t want to meet her.  We’ve communicated in notes, and she has been standing right there when I talk to SS on the phone, so I’ve heard her voice, but that’s it.

I’m not sure that there IS a normal in this situation, and maybe if your daughter had been a smaller child, things would have been different.  I’m willing to bet that your ex as asked about him when your daughter visits, and he must feel that’s enough.

As long as your daughter’s relationship with him isn’t suffering, I wouldn’t spend anymore time worrying about it.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@lorie:  I think it’s normal to want to have a casual relationship with your ex’s SO/Wife/Fiancee for the sake of the children. I mean in a “Can’t we all just get along” way.

he doesn’t seem to be that fun to be around though so i’m not sure it’d be a pleasant experience for your husband. you wouldn’t want him to make passive agressive comments and make the whole situation Awkward.

SO and I have always said we’d be like the show “all of us” if we ever separated/divorced. Lol.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think it’s abnormal for your ex not to want to meet your current husband. In fact, I think you should be glad that your ex is staying out of it rather than getting all up in your business. My youngest brother is 12 and neither of parents have ever met each other’s SO’s and both are totally okay with that.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

With older kids I don’t think it is such a big deal to not want to meet a SO of your ex. If the person were a jerk your daughter is old enough to say something. If she were younger then it would be a different story.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it’s a matter of personal preference and opinon.

 

It sounds like he doesn’t want anything to do with you or your SO, and I’d say that that’s not THAT uncommon, no.

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