- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I was unsure if I even wanted to write this post, but it concerns something that is still bothering Mr. Valhalla and I, even a little over a month after our wedding.
Disclaimer: We went on our honeymoon (which was a month long) immediately after our wedding, and just got back now, which is why we didn’t bring this up with the friends I am going to talk about in this post sooner.
Two of our very good friends travelled from BC to NS for our wedding (well, I shouldn’t say they exclusively went for us, but they did a road trip from Montreal to NS, and planned it around our wedding). We loved having them there and were so pleased they were able to make it, becuase we really valued their friendship. During the wedding, we had an open bar, and my Maid/Matron of Honor, and these two friends (who are a couple) left a little early, claiming to be a little tired. All three were drunk. They said they would meet up with us for the afterparty a bit later. About half an hour later, the wedding ended, and my husband and I headed to our hotel room to change prior to going out. We were exhausted, but happy.
However, when we opened the door to our suite (with Mr. Valhalla’s key), it had been completely pranked. There was toilet paper all over the room, and they drew obsence images all over the mirrors in the room (breasts, penises, vaginas). I am not a stick in the mud – if this had been any day but our wedding, I probably would have laughed. But it was our wedding night, and it had been a very stressful week. My husband was so angry he was shaking, and I burst into tears becuase I felt like the mood of our wedding night had been ruined by our friends throughtless prank. We had to spend a hour cleaning the lipstick off the mirrors with kleenexes (we didn’t want to spend our wedding night looking at these images). We phoned our friends, and told them how angry we were, but they seemed to think we were being unreasonable, and just told us to “come out anyway, clean it up later”. As a result of this prank, we were late getting out, and I missed hanging out with some of my friends who had travelled from other provinces to have fun with us at the afterparty.
We met up with my Maid/Matron of Honor, who I promptly gave a piece of my mind for violating my trust by using my key to let my two friends into the room. I had given my Maid/Matron of Honor my hotel room key to hang onto for me, becuase I didn’t bring a purse with me to the wedding. I planned to get it back from her when we went to the afterparty. She apologized, but my other two friends did not. They just sort of laughed it off. We decided to let it slide becuase we just wanted to have fun with the rest of our guests and not have the night be ruined.
The anger at the situation has faded somewhat (now that we have gone on our honeymoon and over a month has passed), but my husband and I are still angry at our friends for pulling a stunt like that, and at our wedding no less! Should I say something to them? What will that accomplish? Or should I just let it go and carry on with the friendship as normal? They were drunk when we spoke to them at the afterparty, so perhaps they didn’t fully understand the gravity of what they had done? Help hive!