(Closed) Is this worth it to bring up wedding prank again?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

O.M.G. That is horrible. I would be livid, and I have an issue where I do NOT forgive very easily, and even when I do, i do not ever forget! It was your wedding night and you have every right to be upset. I would definitely say something to them. ARGH, I AM ANGRY FOR YOU!!! >:(

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ph Valhalla!!! I dont know what to say…honestly saying anything to them wont do anything the most you will get out of them is “sorry” and if its not meaning ful then whats the point. This was one of my biggest fears!!!!! im so sad it happened to you 🙁

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Humm…I think I would still be mad but I’m a wimp and probably wouldn’t say anything. Is this normal behavior for them? Like to play pranks and stuff?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

In My Humble Opinion I think you are over-reacting. They didn’t ruin any of your personal items – they were just trying to be funny. They maybe didn’t think everything through fully, but it doesn’t sound like there was any malicius intent to ruin your night. I’m not sure what you will achieve from re-hashing the situation with them. I would carry on.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Holy thoughtless Batman! You have every right to be angry about that! I would be too! I guess you need to think about if it’s worth it to mention to them again. My initial reaction is to lay into them about it, but in all honesty, what is that going to accomplish except for your friends thinking you’re a stick in the mud? I think I would let them know that it was not cool to do that to you on your wedding night, but not lay into them so much that they really get annoyed. I also wouldn’t expect an apology from them. It sounds like they just thought it was a funny prank.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yeah, but who wants to walk into their wedding night suite to obscene images?!?!?!  That is absolutly horrible!!!  I don’t understand how *friends* can do that?!  I’m all for a good laugh, but that was absolute poor judgement….and for them to not appologize??? What’s that all about?  Even if they don’t see any harm in it, the fact that you two are upset should be reason enough for them to re-evaluate their actions and appologize!  I’m so sorry you had to see that on your wedding night, where you are blissful and want to walk into a romantically prepared suite.  In any event, I wouldn’t do or say anything else—they already know you are upset, but I wouldn’t go out of your way to show kindness towards them!  Sorry again for your experience 🙁

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I would be super annoyed too, don’t get me wrong, but I also think you’re over reacting slightly.  At the end of your post you say “they didn’t understand the gravity of what they had done”..which is a little dramatic.  While you were upset.. they really did nothing that had to ruin the night for you.  No one else at the wedding saw this behaviour and you absolutely could have just gone out and dealt with cleaning up later.  Most of your “wedding night” would be spent with the lights off any way ; ).  Saying something to them now can not undo what they’ve done and you already let them know that you were upset about it… at this point, let it go, what’s done is done.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it was me I would calmly talk to them about it again and hope they would apologize. I think what they did was very rude and trashy, it’s not like they put rose petals on your bed, they made a mess of what should have been a beautiful first evening as husband and wife. If you don’t say something I fear you will keep resenting these friends, as you have a right to in my opinion. If they still laugh it off while sober and obviously what they did bothers you both very much then I would consider distancing myself from these friends because they obviously don’t see the error of their ways.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I definitely think you should talk to them about this.  Now that you have had time to process, think about it and calm down a bit, and they have had time to sober up!  I think you will need it to move on… you don’t need to be focussing on that part of the day, so you need to let it go by talking to them.  Just remind yourself going into it, that even if you do not get the response you are hoping for, you have been able to say your piece.  Good luck!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would be so mad I prob would have made them clean it up.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That’s terrible! I would have been so upset too. I think it’s too bad that they did this. Personally I might talk to them now, because I wouldn’t want to hold on to negative feelings. I would let them know that it wasn’t appropriate and that it upset you and your Darling Husband. As other said, I would just say what you need to say to them. There’s nothing that can make up for it now, but maybe you can get a sincere apology. At the very least you will be able to air your feelings. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

that is absolutley no ok. I would still be mad too. Would I bring it up to them, prob not but I would be fuming inside, plotting my revenge. BWAHH HAAA HAAA HAAA!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think maybe there is a way overtime to casually let them know that you are honestly upset about it. 

They were probably drunk, thought nothing of it (since pranks are regular), and didn’t think about how stressed you were with the wedding.  Also, when you approached them before they were probably still drinking and not in the best ability to offer an appology. 

 

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