(Closed) Is this wrong or am I overreacting

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@christinaarocks:  Are you sure you would be separated from him the whole time? Alot of weddings today have the wedding party sit with their dates so you’d really only be separated during the ceremony.

Post # 4
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honey, if he’s excited to be a part of it, I think you’re just going to have to suck it up.  On the flip, if you had been a bridesmaid, he would be all alone.

Traditional reception – are you saying that the bridal party wouldn’t get to eat with their spouses?

Post # 5
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

What does their having kids have to do with them wanting bridesmaids and groomsmen in their wedding?

I’ve been to several weddings where Boyfriend or Best Friend was a groomsman and I was a guest (and the head table doesn’t include the wedding party’s dates). Yeah, it sucks that you’re alone at first (especially if you don’t know any of the other guests), but you won’t be alone the whole night. At the reception everyone usually ends up getting up and dancing and moving around anyway.

Post # 7
1736 posts
Bumble bee

The only thing that bothers me about what you wrote is that he has to drive 5 hours there and back (10 hours in a car!) in one day. If he’s ok with that and excited to be a part of their day…then let him have that. It’s inconvenient for sure and last minute to boot, but he must have said yes for a reason! Unless you know for sure they are having a head table, you will likely sit with hubby and have a great night of dinner, drinks and dancing!

Post # 8
46414 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I say get over it. To please you, he would have to drop out of the wedding party. They have obviously already had some last changes to deal with.

Your Darling Husband willl only be occupied during the ceremony and perhaps may have to sit at the headtable or a bridal party table,( and you don’t even know yet- you might be sitting with him), then he will be free to dance with you.

You could choose to look at the bright side and see this as as a great little getaway.

Perhaps I am unrealistically independent, because I wouldn’t have him drive back for me either. I would either drive myself and meet him there, or take a bus, train, plane etc.

Post # 9
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think he should either skip rehearsal and drive with you, or fly there and you drive, or you fly in. IMO it is just too much to drive 15 hours in one weekend.

Post # 10
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I couldn’t tell from your post, are you saying married men shouldn’t be groomsmen? I think it’s pretty common. It’s been a while since I’ve seen a Bridal Party table at a wedding though. 

Anyway, I’d try to find my own transportation and show up with a smile. 

Post # 11
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@julies1949:  I don’t think you’re “unrealistically independent”– I’d do the same thing!

Post # 12
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@julies1949:  Agree with everything you said!

Post # 14
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Why can’t he go without you?  if your going to sit by yourself anyway?  Or can’t you drive there after you get off work?

Post # 16
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@christinaarocks:  I agree that the last minuteness is rude.  I think you just need to follow DHs lead, though.  If he feels he needs to honor his commitment and wants you to be there, I would suggest going along with it!

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