Post # 1
So we just sent out our save-the-dates last week, and I invited a couple (just the two of them). I just got an email from the wife saying that she and her daughter wuld attend and she can’t wait to come? AAHHH! How do I respond to this? We have a strict policy about kids and we only invited her and her husband. Is there a nice way to explain that letting her daughter come in her husband’s place cause a whole lot of drama? Thanks….
Post # 3
@LoveInATX: You only have to learn one phrase. “I’m sorry but that won’t be possible”
Just keep repeating this using the broken record technique. Don’t justify, defend, or explain yourself. You do not owe anyone an explanation as to why they cannot invite a guest of their choosing to your event.
You: Hey Sally, I’m sorry, but it won’t be possible to accommodate little Suzy at the wedding, We hope you will still be able to join us.
Her: Wahhhhh, Suzy really wants to come.
You: I’m sorry, but that won’t be possible.
Her: But Suzy and I do everything together, next week we are getting surgery to permanently fuse our hip bones together.
You: I’m sorry but that won’t be possible. Gotta run, the cat’s on fire. Bye.
Then get off the phone, leave the conversation, end the email. It is a pretty sure fire (and etiquettely approved) phrase.
Post # 4
that’s strange, she should read the invitation/card one more time… how old is the daughter? just explain your policy to her 🙂
Post # 5
@andielovesj: LOVE and DITTO to your response!
Post # 6
@andielovesj: I totally agree on your post, great one. 🙂
Post # 7
@andielovesj: LMAO. cats on fire… love it
Post # 8
“The cat’s on fire” has just become my go-to answer for getting off the phone with telemarketers…lol
Post # 9
@andielovesj: Ahaha re: the cat!
Post # 10
@LibbyLoo: and door to door salespeople. 😀
Post # 11
…you sent out a Save the Date and she is RSVP’ing? Did you ask for an RSVP on it?
Post # 12
I don’t understand why she is rsvp’ing to a save the date. Kind of odd, but at least you have plenty of time to deal with it. Do exactly as others have said and you’ll be fine. If she can’t get past her daughter not being able to come along and says she won’t come then, then that is fine and you’ll be sorry she has to miss it. You don’t need these people putting extra drama on you already.
Post # 13
thanks all, and no, i did not put rsvp on the save-the-date. from what i understand, her husband (who was invited) doesn’t want to pay to come so she is taking her daughter instead. for clarification, we are having some kids (our nephews and cousins) but aren’t inviting our cousin’s kids. i just don’t want my cousins upset their child could not come but a family friend’s child could.
Post # 14
@andielovesj: BAHAHAHAHA, perfection as always.
Post # 15
Wait, I’m confused.. the hubby doesn’t want to pay for accomodations/travel? are they OOT? If she goes, aren’t they paying for it anyway?