(Closed) Is this wrong? (RSVP etiquette)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3286 posts
Sugar bee

@LoveInATX: You only have to learn one phrase.  “I’m sorry but that won’t be possible”

Just keep repeating this using the broken record technique.  Don’t justify, defend, or explain yourself.  You do not owe anyone an explanation as to why they cannot invite a guest of their choosing to your event.

You: Hey Sally, I’m sorry, but it won’t be possible to accommodate little Suzy at the wedding,  We hope you will still be able to join us.

Her:  Wahhhhh, Suzy really wants to come.

You: I’m sorry, but that won’t be possible.

Her: But Suzy and I do everything together, next week we are getting surgery to permanently fuse our hip bones together.

You: I’m sorry but that won’t be possible.  Gotta run, the cat’s on fire.  Bye.

Then get off the phone, leave the conversation, end the email.  It is a pretty sure fire (and etiquettely approved) phrase.


Post # 4
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

that’s strange, she should read the invitation/card one more time… how old is the daughter? just explain your policy to her 🙂

Post # 5
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@andielovesj:  LOVE and DITTO to your response!

Post # 6
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@andielovesj: I totally agree on your post, great one. 🙂

Post # 7
14978 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@andielovesj: LMAO.  cats on fire… love it

Post # 8
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

“The cat’s on fire” has just become my go-to answer for getting off the phone with telemarketers…lol

Post # 10
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@LibbyLoo: and door to door salespeople. 😀

Post # 11
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

…you sent out a Save the Date and she is RSVP’ing? Did you ask for an RSVP on it?

Post # 12
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t understand why she is rsvp’ing to a save the date. Kind of odd, but at least you have plenty of time to deal with it. Do exactly as others have said and you’ll be fine. If she can’t get past her daughter not being able to come along and says she won’t come then, then that is fine and you’ll be sorry she has to miss it. You don’t need these people putting extra drama on you already.

Post # 15
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wait, I’m confused.. the hubby doesn’t want to pay for accomodations/travel? are they OOT?  If she goes, aren’t they paying for it anyway?

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