(Closed) Is this wrong?? (v long sorry)

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Not at all. I think it is lovely go for it. Just think how many people celebrate christmas and Easter who are not christian.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think you are being disrespectful, because you seem to enjoy the beauty of the ring and show interest in its meaning. However, I will say that I am ethnically Japanese and Chinese and do find it offensive when people take symbols that are sacred to my culture and use it any old way because use they think it’s “cute,” “exotic,” or “trendy.” Maybe you could ask the jeweler for some background information on the ring?

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Um, that’s silly. That’s a very popular ring style and a lot of famous designers are making jewelry like that! Personally, I REALLY like the style; always have.

It’s a ring. Is it disrespectful to go out and eat russian food, too?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I get what your Maid/Matron of Honor is saying, but still don’t think its disrespectful.  I would do some research but, just out of curiousity.  I’ve seen these rings on other people, none of whom are Russian. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think that the ring can mean whatever you want it to mean. People are always borrowing things from different cultures, and as long as you aren’t being obnoxious about it then its fine. You can tell people the story of finding the ring, and how traditionally is is thought to symbolise so and so, and you love it because it makes you think of whatever it makes you think of. I say go for it. 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that’s silly.  It sounds like there isn’t any clear consensus as to the origins of the meaning anyway.  Where it because you love it and give it whatever meaning you want.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Hi vicarswifeintraining,

Which jewellers was this out of interest?

My brother wore a russian wedding ring when he was engaged many years ago, I also chose a russian wedding ring for an engagement ring when i was in university, it was the yellow gold, rose gold, white gold one, very pretty.

I think these are pretty common in the UK now and they’re seen as more symbolic of the sentiment behind them, I guess I’m biased but I don’t think it’s disrespectful.

However, saying that, i’m not sure i’d want to wear a ring that my husband disagreed with the meaning or felt it disrespectful. If he has really strong thoughts on the subject, maybe you should keep looking for something you both love…

 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve seen rings just like that in multiple different department stores and such (although obviously not as nice of a metal as in a jewelery store) and know numerous people who own similar rings.  It may have originated as a Russian style but I’d say that it certainly is not anymore.  I don’t see any problem with you getting it if that is the style of ring you like.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I still don’t see an issue with it if it has russian orthodox meanings. I’m pretty sure most nice sayings (and vows!) come from some sort of religious connotation somewhere. You aren’t wearing it for the orthodox-ness of it, you’re wearing it because it struck out to you for other reasons. Sentiment, looks, whatever. That particular group does not “own” it. I guess I don’t think it’s a big deal…i’m part korean and I don’t get offended when people have korean symbols in their house or anything. I hardly even notice or think twice. Or if someone has a Mary on their shirt, I don’t think twice. Shrug and move on. It’s not that big of a deal!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1993

I wouldn’t worry about it. I am Russian (don’t live there anymore), and most of my friends back in Russia use regular single band rings even if they do a traditional Orthodox ceremony.

So I doubt anyone will get offended as long as your response to people asking you about the ring is something along the lines of “I picked it because it was beautiful, technically it’s traditional Russian Orthodox and (optional) I’ve done some research and it supposedly means so-and-so” and not “it’s Russian Orthodox, it has these beautiful meanings, so I just had to pick it! I am sooooooo in tune with the culture now”.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wear a ring like that on my right hand. I had no idea it meant anything. I love it!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Three is a common number in all kinds of mythologies, and I’m pretty sure that Russian Orthodoxy didn’t invent the interlocking ring. Don’t worry about it.

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