Is tipping the officiant the right thing to do?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We tipped our JoP 75 bucks, because hell, he just married us. That’s pretty important imo.

If you don’t want to tip, don’t.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I personally wouldn’t tip since you’re already paying a good amount for his services and to him directly. You could always get him a thank you card and small gift if that would make you feel better about it. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It irritates me that he insinuated that you need to give him more money. 

Does he set his own fee already? If so, then I would not tip. If he wanted more money, he should have charged more. 

Post # 7
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52 posts
Worker bee

mrsdrake :  No.  I wouldn’t tip this person.  Heh.  For the cheek of even mentioning the tip, casually mention one of you is a tax auditor.  Ok.  Just have a good wedding day with some good laughs.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

mrsdrake :  Yeah I totally agree. The “fishing” for a tip is annoying as well. Hope you have a great day tomorrow!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

Our officiant was a pastor, and it seems weird to tip a pastor. We did give her a gold necklace as an extra thank you in addition to her requested payment though. I guess if he is just a guy who officiates weddings for a living, I can sort of see the logic behind tipping him. However, the fact that he asked for one is definitely a turn off. Unless you really, really liked him, I would probably not give him a tip or alternatively just give him a small food gift or something. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Our Justice of the Peace had a brochure of her history, services, and pricing. There was also a paragraph about how some people tip and that she accepts and appreciates tips if offered. I thought it was a little bizarre since she set her own rates. 

Anyway, I brought $20 to our ceremony to tip her but didn’t end giving it to her! We had requested a secular, non-religious ceremony and she said that was no problem. However, as she was pronouncing us husband and wife, she said “By the power vested in me by the state of XXX, and also thanks to the little man up there in the sky, I now pronounce you husband and wife.”  We weren’t thrilled about that….so the tip stayed in my purse!

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