Post # 1
New bee here looking for some support or just someone to say I haven’t totally gone crazy yet! We have just started TTC and while I am so excited I am finding it is always on my mind – Am I pregnant already? Will it ever happen for me? What if it doesn’t? And though my husband is totally on board with TTC and looking forward to having a baby he is more “when it happens it will be great!”. I thinks it is just different for guys – at least early in the TTC process?
How do all you bee’s get through the TWW without losing your mind? To those of you who have been TTC for a while my heart goes out to you!
Currently CD 31 of cycle 1 or CD3 of cycle 2 (? Not totally sure, only really light period which seems to have stopped already, more like spotting? Which just adds to my crazy – bfn’s but no real period?)
I guess I just had this secret hope that I would be one of the lucky ones who gets get a bfn first try – silly I know but the heart wants what the heart wants.
Thanks bees xx
Post # 2
We’re not TTC yet, but very soon will be. I can relate to a lot of your post. I see the pregnant form in everything right now, we both notice kids everywhere, name ideas, etc… I think it’s supposed to be all-consuming. It’s a huge deal!
Post # 3
We are in cycle one of TTC so I don’t have words of wisdom, so to speak, but I understand what you mean.
Don’t be surprised if the hubs isn’t in the same place as you right now. It won’t be real for him until the pee stick turns and even then, not totally real until there is a babe in arms.
I think about TTC and pregnancy and all the what ifs all the time. My goal is not to make my friends (or my husband) go crazy so I try to use this (the bee) as an outlet.
Just try to distract yourself with life and hobbies. The two week wait sucks and is hard to get through. Good luck.
Post # 4
In the TWW of cycle 12 here. At times it is very very consuming. For the most part, it is always on my mind. I’ve had a few emotional breakdowns over it, particularly at the 6 month mark, as well as when SIL and my cousin both had their babies in September (They both got KU in our 1st cycle TTC, one was an oops, the other was literally 1BD in trying…I also hosted both baby showers).
I find that the emotions change with your cycle. AF arrives and that day I’m upset, thinking “this will never happen”. Between AF and O, I’m hopeful. The first part of the TTW isn’t so bad either, but by 8DPO I’m stressed, obsessed, and already preparing myself to grieve and wait for AF.
The best advice I can give to you is to try to keep yourself busy. Give yourself something to look forward to when AF arrives and you’re feeling down. DH and I plan a sushi date night at our favorite place when AF shows her ugly head…it really helps force me to dress up and look nice instead of wallowing in self pity and making myself depressed.
Post # 5
Also, FWIW, Darling Husband had the same feelings as your Darling Husband throughout this TTC thing. Now that we are starting to move into the fertility testing phase, he’s more involved in things.
Post # 6
Oh yes and I’m only in cycle two of ttc! I try to focus on what I can do, like how I eat, if I exercise, that kind of thing. Makes me feel like I’m always doing something for the cause! I try to limit how much I think about it. But just a little while ago I was getting anxious about not having a positive OPK, silly since I’m cd13 and it wasn’t until cd17 last time. Definitely learning to be patient…it’s not easy!
Post # 7
sherry17: Yes it IS a huge deal! Darling Husband is just so zen about it all!
MrsM914: We aren’t telling anyone we are TTC in real life so Darling Husband is the only person I can talk to about it. Like you I am trying not to make him crazy with TTC talk (at least this early on ha ha) but it is hard! Thank goodness for the bee!
MissCountryGirl727: My heart goes out to you. I hope you get that beautiful BFP this time. You are so right about the rollercoaster of emotions. I have friends in both camps (i.e. those with multiple instant bfp’s and those struggling with IVF) so I wonder were Darling Husband and I will fit on the spectrum? Just this first cycle I went from “Holy wow, we could make a baby today?!” to “What if it never happens?” to “I feel so awful I am sure I am pregnant” (which in hindsight was probably all progesterone related I guess?) and right back to “what if it never happens?” again. It is so funny you mention sushi because by 3 DPO I had made Darling Husband promise to take me out for sushi if/when AF arrives ha!
preppysouthernbride: I know exactly what you mean about “doing something”. I have always been brought up with the mindset of ‘if you want something you go out and make it happen’ e.g if you want a good career then study/work hard, if you want to buy a house then save money etc so it is frustrating that no matter what you do you can’t “make” it happen.
So for now we will continue the stage one TTC “lots of sex plan” for cycle 2 and see how that goes…
Fingers crossed for you all and thank you for the support xx
Post # 8
Hi guys, mind if I join in on this thread? Im 7DPO of my 1st cycle TTC, and I’m going crazy analyzing everything my body does! I tested this morning and got a BFN, but I’m holding out hope that it’s still just too early to tell.
I was very active on this site back in 2011 when I got married, so Im looking to you darling bees again to get me through this, and of course I want to offer all of you that same listening ear! Hope y’all are doing alright this morning!
Post # 9
gyrobb: I think you will find a ton of support on the Monthly POAS threads! Also, make a rule for yourself not to test before 10DPO, trust me, it will save you sanity (and your wallet! )
Post # 10
MissCountryGirl727: thank you dear! That’s probably a good tip.
Post # 11
Wannabeemamma: I’m on year 4 of TTC. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I don’t. I got better in between the ART cycles (IUI, IVF) because the chance of me getting pregnant naturally was so slim. But during a cycle, I was (and am) a crazy woman–and being pumped full of hormones doesn’t help.
I’m currently in my TWW of my first Egg Donation cycle. Imagine what you are going through, then add hormones that mimic pregnancy. Even before the Transfer, I was dizzy, nauseous, food cravings, tired and boobs hurt. After the transfer, add cramping and round ligament pain. (and I have to do a nightly shot in my hip/butt area)
I was bemoaning how much it sucked to feel so pregnant and yet not know if I really am. I almost kicked my Darling Husband out of the house when he told me, “it’s not so bad”. SERIOUSLY DUDE, DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU JUST SAID TO A HORMONAL MAYBE PREGNANT LADY?!?!?!
My only advice is stay off the internet checking out other people’s symptoms. You are on your own unique journey and everyone, pregnant and non-pregnant, has felt what you are feeling right now. Stay busy and keep your fingers crossed!
Post # 12
KoiKove: I feel for you 4 years of TTC sounds like hell on earth. I’m wishing you the best of luck and TEN babies!
Post # 13
sherry17: LOL! thank you for your generosity, but I think I will have my hands full with just ONE 🙂
Post # 14
gyrobb: Welcome! Fingers crossed you get that BFP! A BFN at 7DPO is nothing to stress about – plenty of time yet! I second the PP who said to hold out until 10DPO (or even longer if you can!)
KoiKove: Your husband must love to live dangerously making comments like that lol! Thank you for the baby dust and right back at you. Going through four years TTC, you are going to be one strong and patient mamma!
Can i please ask you lovely bees some more advice? I am in cycle 2 after 10+ years on the pill and my first AF was odd so I am not sure what day of cycle 2 I am? Cycle 1 was as follows:
day 12 – wet CM
day 13 and 14 – definitely EWCM
day 15 onward – scant CM
day 29,30,31 – spotting on and off
day 32 – stop/start very light AF, terrible cramps
day 33 – suuuuper heavy AF for about 2 hours then nothing further at all
Which day should I count as day 1 of cycle 2? My understanding is that you don’t count spotting ie day 1 is the first day of “proper” AF. But that would make it a 2 hour AF! And based on CM I am pretty sure I ovulated day 14 so that would make my LP 18 days which would be unusual? FYI I had BFN’s at day 25 (?11DPO), and day 32 (?18DPO).
Thanks bees x
Post # 15
I was really excited to start the process especially as we were planning to start TTC in December and then decided to catch the fertile window in November instead. Since those early days, it has been a horrible wait. I have experienced some symptoms; only one or two are really different to anything I’ve ever had before but the rest feel IDENTICAL to AF to be honest. I have spent the last one and a half weeks wondering if I am PG or not, whether I will ever be and counting away days of my life knowing this could all lead to a giant BFN anyway.
I am 9DPO and tested BFN today. Feel like sh*t and knew I shouldn’t have tested. Now my two unusual symptoms have disappeared and I just feel like AF is planning her revenge.
This is my first month TTC.
I am scared that if this is how I lose my sh*t after one cycle, how am I going to be every month?
Two months ago, I wasn’t even thinking about TTC, pregnancy or babies. What happened to me?