Post # 1
So, i posted this in another forum, but i realized i may have miscatagorized it. please forgive me the double posting as i a new to this site, and still earning how it works.
I couldnt think of an appropriate title for this post, but i have been wrecking my brain for a few months over what to do.
My partner and I have been together for 5 years. we live in a state where gay marriage is unfortunately illegal. When we originally decided that we had wanted to tie the knot, we came up with the idea of just havng a commitment ceramony. Not unlike a wedding, we just didnt sign a marriage license etc. this was back in november of 2009.
as times and opinions change, its looking like a very great possibility that marriage for all will happen by next year in our state. I mentioned to my partner that i am contented with just heading down to the court house a signing a license. He mentioned he wanted to have a second wedding?vow renewal.
heres my dilemma, only 5 years later, would it be appropraite to have a real wedding? it seems kind of odd to me to invite family and friends togeter again only a short time later for another wedding. or is this ok and they would understand that this is the real deal this time around?
im definitely up for a second wedding/vow renewal, i mean who gets the blessing of repeating the happiest day of their life. i just want to make sure that people would understand.
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Post # 2
I would be very happy to celebrate the wedding of friends of mine if same-sex marriage became legal in their state, even if they had already had a commitment ceremony. If however your commitment ceremony was pretty big and with all the trimmings of your typical wedding reception etc. then I’d probably scale back the ‘real wedding’ a bit.
Post # 3
I commented on your other post.
Post # 4
i truly think that you should do what both of you want. If you want to go big then go big, at the end of the day it is your lives and i think everyone would understand
Post # 5
I am having a vow renewal after only five years. Everyone who is invited is supportive.
Go for it! The legalization of gay marriage is worth celebrating.
Post # 6
Yes, yes, yes… Circumstances have changed & in my heart if we were friends, my joy would be multiplied ten fold because I would understand the significance of the 2nd ceremony vs. the 1st. I feel like I say this in every post pertaining to the “should we” topic, but it’s true, people who love you will support your positive efforts in love, live & all good things.
Post # 7
I second PositiveThinking Legalization of gay marriage is definitely something worth celebrating and long overdue as far as I’m concerned. If I was your friend or family member, I wouldn’t hesitate to attend a second ceremony.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
ivo2015: I would definitely be happy to attend the legal marriage ceremony of a friend if they were in the same situation! Everyone will definitely understand and not one would consider ‘it’s soon’.
Post # 9
ivo2015: I’d definitely be more than happy to attend another ceremony/wedding for friends/family in this situation.
Would you feel better about it if you made it more of a celebration/party than a more formal ‘wedding’ as such? Either way you deserve to celebrate any way you wish and i’m sure everyone will gladly join in!
Post # 10
Allowing two people to get married is always a reason for celebration. Whether it’s one day later or ten years — you deserve to celebrate.
Post # 11
ivo2015: I think this is one of the few really legitimate reasons to have a second wedding, I’m usually pretty critical of the idea of vow renewal but this is absolutely a great reason to have another ceremony. I vote that you can go as big as you like, I mean shoot, you’re not only celebrating your love but also the fact that it’s finally being legally recognized, fireworks would totally be appropriate 🙂
Post # 12
My husband and I are having a vow renewal we got married at the court house nov 2013 and we wanted the family there but because of paperwork we had to go there faster than we planned. so we are going ahead with our August Date