Post # 47
We will also have a 2 year engagement. It gives us time to save money (btw don’t be fooled by the words Destination Wedding…they can cost the same or more sometimes!).
At this point I’ve arranged for my seamstress to make my dress and I have got lots of ideas pinned on Pinterest. We are going to slowly buy things over the next 2 years so we won’t be stretched at the end. Paying for a wedding by yourselves can be expensive but very rewarding too because you get to plan what you want.
We are getting married at Disneyworld. They will allow us to start planning 18 months out and we can book the date at 12 months out. When you look at it that way 2 years will fly by!
Post # 48
My wedding isn’t for 4 years but it’s because we’re waiting until we’re both done with school. It will be fine and enjoy your engagement 🙂
Post # 49
I’m having an almost three year engagement and I am ready to go to the courthouse or elope. I never wanted such a long engagement. I know how I am. I will change my mind five thousand times in a week and the only way I seem to be able to make a commitement to a decision is if I have a deadline. I haven’t done any real wedding planning yet and I’m dying to start, but I can’t justify doing anything so far out. I’ve already been through two seperate wedding binders because I can’t make up my mind. Yes, a long engagement was a bad idea for me. I could have easily dealt with a year, or maybe 9 months…
But, some people like it and it works for them. So ignore your coworkers and do whatever you and you FH feel is best for you.
Post # 50
We are having a 7 month engagement and I was more than ready for it to be over after 4 months. I thought I would looooooooooove wedding planning– I had tons of ideas and was ready to calmly call vendors and figure everything out. So I did that… and then we still had 5 months to wait to get married.
But we’re not living together before marriage. If I could be pretend-married with Fiance, it might have made the waiting easier? But then I still loathe picking out things and pretending to give a hoot about anything. I don’t care what the programs look like! Don’t care if the bubble tube ribbons look nice! Don’t care!
Post # 51
Oh hunny I know how that goes! He proposed Feb of LAST year and are “planning” our wedding October of next year. Over 2 1/2 years in total. NOW he’s saying we could push it back. We still haven’t saved up much and times have been hard. It sucks. I’m engaged. I want to be married NOW. Isn’t that the point of getting the ring?! But that’s how it goes so no I don’t think 2 years is long. I think its a good amount of time. However, if mine becomes 3 years I’ll be making my own thread lol!
Post # 52
I agree with Rebwana that all the planning can be done in 4 months, I got engaged about three weeks ago and already I have my reception venue, photographer, florist, bridesmaids, baker, DJ and wedding video guy. I have not sorted my church yet because we are getting married on a separate day due to his dad being so old. You see my fiance is English and I am Irish,and we are getting married in England but the reception is the following week in Ireland. We were concerned that his dad may not be able to travel to Ireland for the wedding so we decided to split the wedding between the two places. There is a lot more planning involved but everyone is a lot happier and that makes me happy.
I have to say though that although I’ve got a lot done in a short space of time, I’m glad I’ve opted for a two year engagement. We get to have everything planned well in advance and hopefully sit back and enjoy doing the fun stuff like picking the dresses and having so much time to save money for everything is a real bonus. I plan to have 75 percent of everything paid for in 12 months time so I don’t have to worry too much about things in the few months leading up to the wedding.
Two years isn’t really that long. It will fly by I am sure!
Post # 53
We are having a 22 month engagement. It’s longer than I would have planned, but the venue of our dreams had a crazy long waiting list….and since we’re already living together, we figured we could wait! I’ve been engaged almost a year now, and I’m STILL loving every minute of the planning…I just have so many ideas! And I know my wedding will stand out because I have the TIME to make all those little touches and small details that will really make the reception very “us.”
As far as money goes, you have more time to save, AND more time to search out bargains/do DIY things that you wouldn’t have time to do if you had a short engagement. So think of all the perks and all the money you can potentially save…and don’t listen to anyone who tries to tell you otherwise!
Post # 54
When we get married, we will have been engaged for almost two years (1 month shy). Honestly, I really enjoyed the “engaged” phase of my life, it’s nice to be engaged and I don’t know why there is an assumption that the marriage will come immediately. It’s also great because you have alot of time so you can get all the vendors you want, if you book early. Our venue had a 1,5 year wait so I’m glad I was able to book it and didnt have to compromise on the venue. I’ve learnt that you shouldnt listen to what ANYONE says when it comes to your wedding, at the end of the day, it’s your event and it should be a celebration of you and your Fiance –not an ode to what everyone else thinks you should do.
Post # 55
@StL.Ashley: do what works best for you x
Post # 56
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If you are worried about planning for that long, don’t do any actual planning until later on. If you aren’t getting married for two years, don’t do anything other than booking your desired vendors. Then sit back and wait until 9 or 10 months before the wedding and then get the real planning going. That will put you on a more “normal” timeline.
Post # 57
Our Wedding will be 2 years after we got engaged… We are saving to pay for the wedding, get a house and pay for our son… So no 2 years isnt that long.
We booked then venue, and church as soon as we could to make sure we had the date… and slowly I am booking other things.
Post # 58
Fiance andI ended up with a 19 month engagement for a variety of reasons. It sucked to wait so long, but there were definitly perks to the long engagement. We got first choice of all of our vendors, locked in lower prices for booking so far in advance and I have had TONS of time do do all the many DIY projects I chose to do do keep costs down. I don’t think 2 years is too long if thats what you need to do to have the wedding you want! Enjoy taking your time!
Post # 59
16 month engagement here, and I’m loving it! First, you will have your first choice of venues. When we went in June, they were already booked up for June, July, and September FOR THE FOLLOWING YEAR! We basically had to decide right then, and needless to say, we didn’t get any say on the date. But once you get the venue, everything will be easier with that amount of time. You can spend some time just enjoying being engaged. You can research and figure out exactly what you want, and then that person will actually be available when you call them. It’s great, and it takes a lot of the pressure off when you never feel like you have to decide on the spot or lose out.
Post # 60
I’ll be engaged just shy of 2 years (22 months) when we get married. And while it’s not for everybody, I like having a longer engagement. We didn’t start actively planning and booking things until about 14 months out, which I think was reasonable. Now with 10 months to go, its just the little things we’ve got left. Especially if you’re doing a lot yourself, get started early and work on little bits here and there so you don’t get overwhelmed.
When we first got engaged and told people we were thinking 2013 they looked at us like we were crazy and would always ask “why wait so long?” Just ignore them, and do what’s right for you. It will be fine.
Post # 61
Mr. S and I are paying for everything by ourselves too. His parents are gone and mine raised 5 children in poverty, and so, not likely to contribute. If he didn’t save $5,000 for a wedding, we probably wouldn’t have one at all. I’m paying for things as I go. Little things like decorations, my dress, invitations, and I’m trying to cover the honeymoon, though I expect he’ll be contributing to that.
My point is that you have to do what’s best for you. They have a point in that, yes, you will probably change your mind on various elements of your wedding. The thing is, if you’re keeping on the ‘let’s spend as little as possible’ track, you probably won’t. If you’re anything like me, even if you changed your mind after everything was planned, you’d still just go with what was planned as ‘good enough’.
You also don’t need to start officially planning until a year out. But think of it this way, you can wait until about 12 months out, and then swoop in and steal the best-for-the-price vendors before anyone else can get them for your date. That’s a pretty awesome coin to have in your pocket.