Post # 62
When we got engaged, we had planned on having our wedding at two year mark- only because I wouldn’t be out of school until June of 2013 and I didn’t want to get married during the warm months, so december it was. Well fast forward a couple months, we are now eloping to vegas in November- during a break from school. But I think that I am somewhat of an exception. I HATE wedding planning. Absolutely despise it, but that may be because we were paying for everything ourselves and well, it is easier to like something when someone else is paying for it haha. I feel that if we were going to go through with our original plan, two years really isnt THAT long in the wedding world- and I think it would of gone by pretty fast. Plus, I think that you can easily get caught up in wedding planning and not really ENJOY your engagement- so it is like 1 year of pure bliss then the second year can get down to business. Or be like me and elope to Vegas HAHA! Jk!
Post # 63
Great reply. I am shocked by the number of unsolicited opinions Bees are getting from people. I haven’t gotten that many but then I am older and I have been told I am “intimidating” for some reason.
Post # 64
I like being engaged too. I don’t feel the need to “get it over with”
Post # 65
i think it sounds like a decade away lol…personally to me it seems forever.
Post # 66
@StL.Ashley: I also think they are confusing the wedding planning with real life logictics. Maybe in the world of actual wedding planning, too much time causes some issues but in real life, sometimes you need some extra time for real life (to finish school, etc)
Post # 67
Our engagement is just a smidge shorter than 20 months. While I do agree that you should definitely do what’s best for you, I also agree that you’ll end up doing more & coming up with more ideas & projects than if the engagement is shorter. I’m not “sick” of our wedding quite yet.. LoL. I still have 3mo to go, and honestly, I think about 4-6mo shorter would have been more ideal, but that’s just not the way things worked out.
Post # 68
If you can avoid it I would. We lost a lot of money on changed plans due to our 2 year engagement. Being in the business you should be able to get some good deals and I would talk to your coworkers to maybe get some referals. I would choose the less stressful shorter wait time with a small budget over a long wait time more stressful wedding with a bigger budget. With all this said my wedding was 2 days ago and went off great (but still missing a lot of my plans) even with the stress of a 2 year engagement.