Post # 1
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Newbee
My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married recently. And I know that he will propose soon but he says he hasn’t decided on a ring for me. He keeps asking me to show him online what I’m looking for. I know we aren’t rich and famous so I considered that I wouldn’t want the ring to reach $500. But I never told him that I just kept it to myself… anyways I sent him pictures of 6 different rings. The most expensive being $489 and the lowest being $265. And he messaged me back saying they were too expensive. Now I’m not all about money but I do know about jewelry because I buy my own a lot. And I do know that anything lower than $200 as far as the band goes will probably turn my finger green. And I just want a ring that looks nice and doesn’t rust or turn color.. Am I being too picky or is he being too cheap? I’m not sure what he gets paid a week we are young. But I’m sure he gets at least $1000 biweekly. Not to mention he shops a lot and has expensive taste… Am I being too picky?
Post # 2
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Helper bee
No. The engagement ring is what ever you can afford. You can get a plastic ring and call it an engagement ring. Amy Slaton got a $100 ring from Rogers from her fiance. They barely have money.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
I don’t think your price range is unreasonable at all. There are lots of beautiful rings in the 200-500 range, especially if you look at ebay for vintage rings. With a bit of saving, that seems like a very reasonable pricepoint, though if he can’t afford it then perahps you could offer to chip in. Have you asked him what he wants to spend?
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I’m not sure what your financial situation is, but perhaps he doesn’t know much about jewelry and cost? My DH was pretty shocked when we went to a store to look at rings because he thought he could get a lot more for his money. I think it is fair for you to want a ring made out of quality material that will last your lifetime, and your $500 max budget seems reasonable and on the low end for engagement ring costs (especially if you are looking at getting gold).
Perhaps if you can not afford the ring you want now due to bills, being a student, low paying job, etc. then you could get a cheaper ring for the time being and upgrade later?
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
Agirl22 : That’s around what we paid for my first set. If you can’t afford $500 don’t fault him for that.
Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
If he shops a lot and has ‘expensive taste’, as in he can easily spend $500 on himself, then no, I don’t think $500 is too much for an ring like he says. The way I see it, people easily drop more than that on a TV or cell phone or whatever other electronics and replace that every few years, so it’s not unreasonable to spend that amount on somethign that is not as disposable as electronics. If he can’t afford it, and you’re still using a tube TV from the 90’s and have a very tight budget where you dont spend a lot on anything, then yes, it’s unreasonable.
Post # 7
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Newbee
browneyedgirl24 : no I haven’t but he said to me the other day. I know you deserve a nice ring but will get you that one in due time. And I understood but I just really don’t want it to be so cheap that it turns color.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
You can get a nice ring for that price from a pawn shop.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
Agirl22 : What are you looking at that “turns” color. You can get 10k gold rings in the 100-200 range that wont turn color. Check out overstock.com. They have a TON of beautiful gemstone 10k gold rings under $200.
Post # 10
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Newbee
pinkshoes : thank you that’s the view point that I see… he has a huge tv and he shops on Amazon prime like every other day… I just feel like he could save and get me the one for $265 atleast
Post # 11
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Newbee
pinkshoes : okkk I will tell him to look there… he has been looking on Amazon and eBay. But I feel like it will tarnish if $100
Post # 12
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Newbee
rosiesummer : I’m not sure if I know where any are but perhaps we could look together. I will suggest it to him. Thank you
Post # 13
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Busy bee
Agirl22 : so he spends money on himself, but
“. I know you deserve a nice ring but will get you that one in due time. “
You have to like, work for/earn a nicer ring (and no, you aren’t greedy or anything) from him?
Post # 14
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Newbee
lahela017 : yeah he doesn’t wear jewelry as a lot of men dont… I just really don’t want it to tarnish honestly. Not about the price tag. I was just making a point that he tends to spend money a lot so I’m not sure why it is a big deal to him…
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
If you’re getting 10K gold, it won’t tarnish. My e-ring is 10k gold and has held up very well (it also cost less than $500)