(Closed) is ur SO in a wedding making u go as a pretty much solo guest?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve done this twice now. Sooper sucks. He sat at head table for reception both times but came to visit me everytime he could.

Bring. A. Flask.

Post # 4
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, that’s pretty common in these types of situations. I think you should just let it go – it’s about the bride and groom, not your feelings! 🙂

(That said, I sat all of my bridal party with their partners, specifically to avoid any hurt/weird feelings. Plus, we wanted a sweetheart table, not a head table.)

Post # 5
3229 posts
Sugar bee

@BeeG35:  I was fine during the ceremony but hate to get separated during the reception when I don’t know anyone. Luckily,  I’ve never had to endure a head table which included no SOs. Just try to stick with some people who seem cool. Remember, chances are you’ll be alone duringcocktail hour too while the wedding party takes pictures. Just make the best of it. Wine helps.

Post # 6
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Depends on how nice the bride is. My cousin’s bf sat at the head table with her at my wedding, I would never split up a couple. During the ceremony he sat with my other cousins, whom he knows, but to sit alone during a ceremony anyway is no big deal (it’s not like you’re talking to people during a ceremony), but I think it is beyond rude to sit SOs apart, regardless of wedding party. Make room for them at the head table, damnit, it’s not that hard!

Post # 7
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When FH and I first started dating he wanted me to be his date to a wedding.  He was a groomsman.  I was originally going to just show up to the reception but some how I was suckered into attending the ceremony as well.  I knew the bride and groom but barely (his parents attend my church).  I was super awkward going through the receiving line and the bride was pretty much like, “do I know you?” with her face.  It is a really awkward time but I’m glad I went.  Sometimes you just do what you gotta do.


Post # 8
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BeeG35:  Yes, my Fiance is the Bridesmaid or Best Man in his BM’s wedding (2 months after ours). I do know most people going, though, and my IL’s will be there, so it’s all good. Weddings are actually super fun when you don’t know anyone. You can drink a lil more than you normally would, dance a lil crazier than you normally would and meet new fun friends.

Post # 10
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It’s boring, but it’s not terrible. I ended up getting a mega thank you from the Bride and the MoG since I was with all the men before the ceremony and made sure that they all had the correct buttons, straight bowties and pressed silks.

The worst part was the hour they went and took pictures, so I just hung out in a chair outside. The sun was nice. I was lucky the bride made the head table include all the SOs of the briday party, so at least I wasn’t alone for dinner.

The way I saw it, it was her day and I wanted her to be happy (and all of the men to look good) in the hopes that someday someone would do the same for my wedding.

Post # 12
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We had SOs (and one baby, gasp!) sit with our bridal party at our head table. I wanted them all to be as comfortable as possible. We also happened to be pretty close with all the SOs as well.

Post # 15
46670 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We are all adults and able to sit through a wedding ceremony without our SO by our side. It’s not like you would be chatting to him during the ceremony anyway.

As for the reception, he will only be at the head table during dinner. He will be free to join you after that. Instead of dwelling on being alone, look on this as an opportinity to get the other guests at your table.  You might be at a table with other wedding party SO’s. Who knows? you might make a new friend!

Post # 16
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yeah, he’s best man. There’s nothing I can do but I was nervous about all the driving I’d have to do by myself through the city. However, I just found out his parent’s were invited so I’m thrilled that I have someone to ride with. 

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