(Closed) Is waiting causing me to become materialistic? :(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Depending on the quality of the diamond, a 1.5 carat might be outside the budget. If you really want something that’s that size and sparkles like the cz, maybe try talking him into an Asha? I don’t know what the budget is, but maybe you can sticker shock him out of a diamond so you can have the size you want, haha.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Ummmm carat is weight not size. So whether it’s a 7mm stone or a 7.5mm stone they could BOTH be 1.25 carats or they could both be 1.5 carats.

Post # 6
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1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsGolden2Bee:  well there is an average to it…if a diamond or any stone for that matter is cut ideally to the correct proportions, than that carat weight should equate to a certain size.

Post # 7
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think the fact that 1, you’re waiting and 2, you’re looking at it, is playing with your head. I thought I wanted at least a 1 carat diamond, turns out what he could afford was something like .8. Now I think any larger wouldlook like gaudy, and most people’s initial comments went something along the lines of, “Look atthe size of that rock!” 

I think 2 things will help:

Tell him to rehide it. So you can stop analyzing it ruler in hand. πŸ™‚

Get engaged, you won’t care anymore because it’s SO sparkly and on your finger, and just the greatest ring ever. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@Dell79:  Yes I know there is an average to it. What I’m saying is that everyone just ASSUMES the diamond will be ideally cut. And what I’m saying is thats not always the case. So unless she wants her guy’s diamond cost to jump a lot then she should consider all the factors. Maybe drop a hint about a stone with a larger spread etc etc.

Post # 9
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally, I would be disappointed if the actual ring turned out to be smaller than what I had been stealing glimpses of/measuring/obessing over/etc. That’s one of the reasons I would have avoided doing what you’re doing now by trying to ignore it (sorry, I know that doesn’t help at this point). I guess it is somewhat materialistic, but, honestly, I don’t know how you avoid being disappointed if you’ve been staring at it and it turns out noticeably smaller when you actually get it. 

Post # 10
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Carat is a unit of weight, not size. If your Boyfriend or Best Friend is getting a GIA graded diamond it will have the mm dimensions stated. Different stones will carry thier weight differently depending on how they are cut. Each diamond cut/shape has an ideal table (part that faces up) and ideal depth. Have him try to look for the a diamond that has a larger table (but still within the guidelines) and you will get a larger looking diamond for the weight.

Post # 11
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

i think you are over thinking things.  Let him pick what he can afford. 

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