(Closed) Is you FH making anything for your wedding or is he using his skills?

posted 9 years ago in DIY
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

He’s not making anything specific, he’s not much of a crafter, but he makes a good sounding board/test subject 😛

Post # 18
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439 posts
Helper bee

Fiance is making all the food for our wedding (he’s a chef).  I have tried to talk him out of this several times to no avail.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The only thing he’ll 100% be making is the columns that will be the backdrop of our ceremony space.  Apart from that, eventually I’m sure I’ll rope him into some assembly line crafting!

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ buttontoes: My guy is a chef too, and I had to talk him out of catering our wedding. It happened in stages. At first he agreed on just cocktail hour food and cake. Then, when he realized how hectic it’d be and how many out-of town guests and logistical complications we’d have, he settled on just the cake. I’d encourage you to continue the discussion with your Fiance if you’re not comfortable with him doing the all the food.

He probably wants to cater because a) he’s proud of his work and it’s a great chance to share his talent with friends and loved ones, and b) he thinks people will expect him to cook because he’s a chef. So, try the “quality, not quantity” approach: tell him to pick one or two things and do a spectacular, memorable job on them instead of trying to handle everything himself.

If he still insists on doing everything, make sure he hires a great assistant (not you!) and a really strong serving/clean-up crew. Be nice about it, but don’t be afraid to put your foot down a little because it’s your wedding day and he will be much more present and less stressed out if he’s not the caterer. Good luck!!!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

FH’s work schedule is pretty hectic (his “regular” job & a couple consulting gigs) so he hasn’t helped with much other than finances (which is greatly appreciated!). He *is* very interested in planning the honeymoon though.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He’s going to make the cake!

Post # 23
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Helper bee

@jadeblue:  I’m working on it…slowly.  His parents offered us a pig for our meat (they have a small organic farm), so at least that is going to be taken care of because someone else will handle the roasting.  Really all he has to worry about are side dishes, now.  He’s going to make some salads that need to be made a few days ahead of time (they’re better if they sit at least 24 hours type of salad).

He’s going to talk to his old boss back home about utilizing her kitchen in her restaurant and some of her staff.  Servers is what I haven’t figured out yet.  I don’t know where we’re going to find servers.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My hubby made a pirogue (small flat bottomed boat) to hold beer during our reception. He is from Louisiana and often times you will see pirogue’s used to hold drinks. We had a swamp scene set up in one corner and the pirogue was a hit. People couldn’t get over how good a job he did on it. I can’t wait to get our pro pics back to see the swamp scene in all it’s glory, our guests pics don’t quite do it justice.

Here is my gorgeous husband and his pirogue.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@JessesGirl : OMG I love that!  I wish that my FH would do that for our wedding 🙁  I would love to have a beer filled pirogue!

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Nola: Thanks… we totally stole the idea from his cousin that got married last year but they didn’t build their pirouge. I was so proud to show it to everyone and see the looks on their faces when they found out he built it himself.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

He made the arch for the ceremony and the cake stand among other things for the wedding.  There are some talented husbands out there!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@danaadell: wow… that pic is gorgeous. Your hubby did a great job!

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