Post # 1
I wear my engagement ring, and I am going to wear a wedding band, but my fiance doesn’t like rings on his fingers (well he has never worn one) but he said he doesn’t want one. Is your fiance going to wear one? Would you be upset? I think I feel okay with it, but for some reason it seems to bother me at times.
Post # 3
Yes he is… he’s pretty excited about it… he wears a man-gagement ring now too. If he decided not to wear one I’d be slightly hurt but I’d get over it =)
Post # 4
I wouldn’t care either, but DH loves his ring and has never had it off.
Post # 5
Mine never wears jewelry and it’s like pulling teeth to even get him to wear a watch. I only wear a signature bracelet and earrings so when I got my ring it took some adjustment. He will get used to it and won’t even notice it after a few weeks.
Post # 6
My Fiance can’t wait to wear his wedding band. 🙂
Post # 7
My Fiance is going to wear a wedding band and he can’t wait for it actually. I have, however, met plenty of people who don’t like to wear rings. My step-grandpa only used to wear his ring on anniversaries. When my step-dad married my mother he gave the ring to my step-dad.
Post # 8
nope, we werent even married 10mins and he asked to take his ring off as he felt uncomfortable and we later had it melted down into something else – doesnt bother me in the least
Post # 9
Have you told Fiance how you feel about it?? I’d open up to him and tell him how you feel. Have an open and honest discussion… without it getting heated of course.
Fiance felt the same way, though it was more like he felt “gay” for wearing any type of jewelry besides his watch or chain (dude, one of your ears are pierced TWICE and you used to wear studs…). I think I managed to convince him that he’s not wearing a diamond studded pinky ring and the whole point about wearing a band is to represent our union and everlasting love. We’ve briefly looked online and he’s taken a bit of interest after seeing whats out there. He’s now saying that since he won’t be able to wear his band all the time (too dangerous with farm-life) that I’ll have to remind him to put it on… “Are you married tonight?!”
Post # 9
I was surprised that my Fiance found a wedding band that he liked. We went looking with an open mind because he is not a jewelry guy and I told him I would be ok if he decided he didn’t want one. He ended up finding a ring that he is excited to own, he kept calling it “his ring” in the store and got funny when someone else needed to try it on.
Post # 10
As of now, my Fiance is not wearing one…kinda. He wants to buy one and only wear it on special occasions. He says he doesn’t like jewlery, which is very true considering he never wears anything, no watch, no earrings. So while I understand this, is still peeves me a bit but in the end, it’s the commitment you make to eachother and while I think the rings symbolize that commitment, they don’t make it.
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
DH never wore jewelry, but he wanted to wear a wedding ring. At first he wanted just a simple band, then he thought he wanted a titanium band. He wouldn’t look at anything with diamonds until a salesman at a jewelry store told him he deserved diamonds too. He puffed up like, ‘yeah…I deserve them too!” After that he looked at a lot of diamond bands. Then we found one with 9 diamond…”one diamond for every position on a baseball diamond”…his face lit up when he put it on, and I knew that was the one. He took it out and looked at it and tried it on all the time before we were married. Now he only takes it off when he’s doing something that might ruin it.
Anyway, even though he never wore jewelry before, he’s gotten used to wearing his wedding ring now. He played with it a lot when he first started wearing it, but now he says he doesn’t even think about it. He’s so used to it that he forgets he has it on.
Post # 12
There are so many lightweight rings now that your SO won’t even feel….perhaps you could ask him to wear it for 3 months and see how he feels after that? (compromise)
My first husband didn’t wear a ring and he didn’t give me one either. I borrowed a ring from my sister to wear. (I was SO YOUNG) It always bothered me.
My new hunny couldn’t WAIT to wear a ring! He’s so sweet about it and it makes me happy when I see him put it on each morning.
When we were planning the engagement I didn’t even like diamonds. I had a gemstone ring in mind. Once the diamond was on my finger i completely changed. Maybe your SO will as well?
Post # 13
We bought one for the ceremony, but nope- FI won’t be wearing one. He wants to get one tattooed on & that’s totally fine with me.
Post # 14
My fiance says the same thing and I don’t think he’ll wear it all the time but he knows I’d like him to wear it at least when he’s off work. We’ll see how it goes. I don’t think it’s something I want to fight about though so I’m just getting a really comfortable band and hoping for the best!
Post # 15
@Candace From BC:
Hates it. Refuses to wear it. So, I figure…no big deal. But we did compromise on the fact that he will wear it to work…and when were out together on dates because of these reasons:
1. While at work: He works with many clients and I want them to know he’s married. He also does.
2. While were on dates: I don’t want people to think I’m out with somone who is NOT my husband so he wears his band.
He isn’t good at it-I have to remind him sometimes but he tries. Mind you….he doesn’t wear watches or even hats. He hates assesories. Hope I helped and Thanks for sharing..we’re in the same boat! 🙂
We’ve been married 6 months by the way so who kows….he might come around to it more but it’s not an issue for us anymoe (at all!)..It’s a compromise i’m ok with.