Post # 1
I’m wondering this because I really thought I’d end up with someone super outgoing..but then here I am with a semi-shy guy. There are pros and cons with both types of personalities, but sometimes I wish he was more outgoing..I guess I like the confidence that seems to come with being more outgoing (which I know isn’t always the case! but anywho..)
..Before anyone calls me superficial or anything like that..I still love him for the wonderful person he is..shy or not! 🙂
Post # 3
My guy is super outgoing, perfect for me! I’m not terribly shy by any means, but sometimes its nice to just sit back and watch him do his thing.
Post # 4
@SecretBee23: It’s hard for me to say one or the other because he’s both. It really depends on the situation we’re in. He can get along with anyone, and can have a good time most anywhere, but that doesn’t always mean that in some certain situations he isn’t more reserved and shy.
I’d say he’s 70%-outgoing 30%-shy….
Post # 5
I’m super outgoing, and my Fiance is perhaps the shyest person I’ve ever met. My friends joked about his nodding abilites so he didn’t have to talk during a conversation, and my mom was terrified he had no personality for the six months we dated.
But I do love him. 🙂
Post # 6
@HisBiscuit: Sounds great! I’m not really shy either, but sometimes I wish I could have a second to chill out!
@Mrs.tobe: You totally inspired more detailed poll numbers! I should have figured people would want to be able to say that their man is somewhere in the middle.
@red_pepper_gal: Your post made me giggle! Nodding abilities and no personality..lol! Y’all sound like you balance each other out perfectly. 🙂
Post # 7
I would not say he is shy. He is comfortably, securely, not interested in being outgoing. However, he is comfortable taking to anyone- he just is comfortable (and laid back) sitting there not saying anything if he doesn’t want to. But he is comfortable piping in if he wants to, too.
Post # 8
He is absolutely 100% outgoing no matter the situation. He is the type of guy who strikes up an actual conversation with the cashier while ordering food at Mcdonalds, who has 50 or so “best friends”, who fits in with any crowd at any time. It’s amazing out extroverted he is.
Post # 9
@cbee: Your guy sounds a lot like how I probably should have described my b/f. A confident, good listener who talks when they feel like it!
@Gingersnap: One of my best guy friends it totally like this. Love it!
Post # 10
Fiance is super shy when it comes to public speaking and meeting new people. When he is with friends, he is loud, funny and can start up a conversation about anything. He’s in the middle with my family…you can still tell he isn’t 100% comfortable but he still starts conversation.
The only downside: he doesn’t like taking charge of a conversation. I usually have to be the chatty one in public. He doesn’t like making phone calls to businesses or family. Which is annoying.
Post # 11
Haha I love the percentage breakdowns, lol! I gave my guy an 80/20 shy/outgoing.
Similarly to you, I always thought I would end up with someone more outgoing, like me. I did date someone like that, and what I didn’t realize until I was with Fiance was that being with a more outgoing person made me feel LESS like myself. I felt subdued. Being with someone who isn’t always the life of the party makes me feel more open to be livelier myself. It’s nice to have that balance.
And I totally get wishing that Fiance had more confidence. Mine does have it in a lot of ways, he showed a lot of confidence in the way he pursued me, and he’s also very ambitious with goals/career stuff. But sometimes I wish he were more confident socially, only because I don’t like seeing him uncomfortable in certain situations when he really shouldn’t be.
Post # 12
My Fiance has his comfort zones. He converse with anyone about sports. We belong to a competitive trivia team and when we are out competing against other teams he has no problem speaking his mind. But, trying to get him to do something he isn’t comfortable doing-like dancing in public, or going to a festival or social event, he is not the one. I am way more outgoing than he is in social situations. I think that we balance each other out this way. He is not at all confrontive, and I have no problem with that. It works for us. I wouldn’t have him any other way.
Post # 13
I used to think that Fiance was supper outgoing, but I found out that was just because we used to only hang out with his friends. Now that we hang out with people he doesn’t know that well he is a lot more shy.
Post # 14
My husband is one of the most outgoing people I know. I thought I was outgoing before I met him but he can literally talk to anyone, anywhere, about anything. Which is awesome for me because it makes situations a lot more comfortable!
Post # 15
My man is a little of both. He’s outgoing around his friends, with his family and when he’s around people with similar interests (other police officers, gun enthusiasts, etc.) He’s a very upstanding guy, but can be shy a lot of the time too.
He is shy around my extended family and around people he doesn’t really know.
It’s okay, beacuse I’m pretty outgoing, so it makes up for him not being so much 🙂
Post # 16
My husband is pretty outgoing. Not quite as outgoing as me, though. I will and do talk to anyone at anytime and love being social! haha But for the most part, he is outgoing which I love. I don’t think I ever would have ended up with somebody who is shy. Not that there is anything wrong with shy, but I don’t think it would mesh with my personality.