(Closed) Is your guy shy or outgoing?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Which describes your man best?
    100% Shy : (3 votes)
    4 %
    100% Outgoing : (13 votes)
    17 %
    10% Shy - 90% Outgoing : (8 votes)
    11 %
    20% Shy - 80% Outgoing : (6 votes)
    8 %
    30% Shy - 70% Outgoing : (4 votes)
    5 %
    40% Shy - 60% Outgoing : (2 votes)
    3 %
    50% Shy - 50% Outgoing : (8 votes)
    11 %
    60% Shy - 40% Outgoing : (6 votes)
    8 %
    70% Shy - 30% Outgoing : (9 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    31 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My guy is super outgoing, perfect for me! I’m not terribly shy by any means, but sometimes its nice to just sit back and watch him do his thing.

    Post # 4
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @SecretBee23: It’s hard for me to say one or the other because he’s both. It really depends on the situation we’re in. He can get along with anyone, and can have a good time most anywhere, but that doesn’t always mean that in some certain situations he isn’t more reserved and shy.

    I’d say he’s 70%-outgoing 30%-shy….

    Post # 5
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m super outgoing, and my Fiance is perhaps the shyest person I’ve ever met. My friends joked about his nodding abilites so he didn’t have to talk during a conversation, and my mom was terrified he had no personality for the six months we dated. 

    But I do love him. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would not say he is shy.  He is comfortably, securely, not interested in being outgoing.  However, he is comfortable taking to anyone- he just is comfortable (and laid back) sitting there not saying anything if he doesn’t want to.  But he is comfortable piping in if he wants to, too.

    Post # 8
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    He is absolutely 100% outgoing no matter the situation. He is the type of guy who strikes up an actual conversation with the cashier while ordering food at Mcdonalds, who has 50 or so “best friends”, who fits in with any crowd at any time. It’s amazing out extroverted he is.

    Post # 10
    2190 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Fiance is super shy when it comes to public speaking and meeting new people. When he is with friends, he is loud, funny and can start up a conversation about anything. He’s in the middle with my family…you can still tell he isn’t 100% comfortable but he still starts conversation.

    The only downside: he doesn’t like taking charge of a conversation. I usually have to be the chatty one in public. He doesn’t like making phone calls to businesses or family. Which is annoying.

    Post # 11
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Haha I love the percentage breakdowns, lol! I gave my guy an 80/20 shy/outgoing.

    Similarly to you, I always thought I would end up with someone more outgoing, like me. I did date someone like that, and what I didn’t realize until I was with Fiance was that being with a more outgoing person made me feel LESS like myself. I felt subdued. Being with someone who isn’t always the life of the party makes me feel more open to be livelier myself. It’s nice to have that balance.

    And I totally get wishing that Fiance had more confidence. Mine does have it in a lot of ways, he showed a lot of confidence in the way he pursued me, and he’s also very ambitious with goals/career stuff. But sometimes I wish he were more confident socially, only because I don’t like seeing him uncomfortable in certain situations when he really shouldn’t be.

    Post # 12
    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My Fiance has his comfort zones. He converse with anyone about sports. We belong to a competitive trivia team and when we are out competing against other teams he has no problem speaking his mind. But, trying to get him to do something he isn’t comfortable doing-like dancing in public, or going to a festival or social event, he is not the one. I am way more outgoing than he is in social situations. I think that we balance each other out this way. He is not at all confrontive, and I have no problem with that. It works for us. I wouldn’t have him any other way.

    Post # 13
    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I used to think that Fiance was supper outgoing, but I found out that was just because we used to only hang out with his friends. Now that we hang out with people he doesn’t know that well he is a lot more shy.

    Post # 14
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My husband is one of the most outgoing people I know. I thought I was outgoing before I met him but he can literally talk to anyone, anywhere, about anything. Which is awesome for me because it makes situations a lot more comfortable!

    Post # 15
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My man is a little of both. He’s outgoing around his friends, with his family and when he’s around people with similar interests (other police officers, gun enthusiasts, etc.) He’s a very upstanding guy, but can be shy a lot of the time too.

    He is shy around my extended family and around people he doesn’t really know. 

    It’s okay, beacuse I’m pretty outgoing, so it makes up for him not being so much ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My husband is pretty outgoing. Not quite as outgoing as me, though. I will and do talk to anyone at anytime and love being social! haha But for the most part, he is outgoing which I love. I don’t think I ever would have ended up with somebody who is shy. Not that there is anything wrong with shy, but I don’t think it would mesh with my personality.

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