(Closed) Is your current SO/FI/DH your first love?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is your SO/FI/DH your first love?

    yes

    no

    other?

  • Post # 47
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My DH isn’t my first love – I would say probably the third real “love” because for me HS boyfriends don’t count.  I was never that attached to guys until college and I definitely played the field a lot.  So I learned a lot about men and relationships before I really fell in love.  

    My first love is a great guy but  ultimately we would have never worked out.  Back then we were in two completely different parts of life.  But he was a wonderful guy and I have a lot of happy memories and even though we both did not expect our little flirting to go anywhere I found myself completely in love with him.  One of my college friends said when I talked to him it was like in a cartoon when someone gets hearts in their eyes.  I still care a lot about him and want the best for him but after awhile those feelings faded as I realized that really he is not the kind of person I want to be with.  The next “love” was this completely all consuming thing with my second college boyfriend.  But he had a lot of growing up to do and it took years for me to learn that.  At the time we were engaged and I thought I was going to marry him and could see our babies.  Fast-forward three years and there was a lot of things I learned and I decided that no matter how I feel this just isn’t working out.

    Then DH came in and he is truly my prince charming in like a thousand ways.  He is the perfect combination of what attracted me to those two and a bunch of things I never realized I wanted.  Our relationship feels different too because the first time things felt really giddy and fast and the second time was really too much.  This feels a lot more grounded and stable – not that there are not those giddy happy “in love” moments just that there’s something deeper too.  We are a lot more healthy I think than my two previous relationships in that way.  My first two loves were like, in a way headed for disaster.  This feels more lasting.

    Post # 48
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    326 posts
    Helper bee

    This pole made me so happy! I’m currently single after breaking up with my first love. It sometimes upsets me when I see that so many people are highschool sweethearts and made me feel like it was all over for me. Now I feel more hopeful

    Post # 49
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    yes and no. once I was with my Fiance I knew that my first love hadn’t really been real (cue the ‘awww’, haha)

    Post # 50
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    5385 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My FH is my first love. We were high school sweethearts. He was the first boy that wasn’t a jerk or an a-hole. He was always considerate and such a gentleman (this is what made him stand out to me). 7 years later,  he still gives me butterflies and looks at me like I am the only woman on earth.

    Post # 51
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    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My FH and I are high school sweethearts. We started dating when I was 15 and he was 16. We did the long distance thing for 5 years while we both pursued our undergraduate degrees in different states and now we are living together while I am finishing up my doctorate degree. We are getting married next summer, after 10 years of being together. Although Fiance is my first and only love, it sometimes feels like I’ve been in love with about 5 different people because we have changed so much from when we were kids. We were lucky to grow together and not apart and I can’t wait to marry him and fall in love over and over for the rest of our lives. 

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    No, but I’m his first love, and we hope to be each other’s last love.

    Post # 53
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    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Fiance is not my first love but he is my best love. I was in love with a guy, but it was not a good love. I don’t think I realized just how much I loved him until the end of our relationship. We went through A LOT, and he didn’t know how to love me. When my Fiance came along, he showed me what it was like to Really be loved. 

    Post # 54
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    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Besides Jonathon Taylor Thomas and Taylor Hanson – yes, my husband is my first love 🙂

    Post # 55
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    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I was engaged before so I thought i was..but the weird thing is that this time around it is even better…

    Post # 56
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    1295 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes my SO is my first love.  He  just happens to be my first boyfriend so l guess I lucked out.  While I’m not his I would agree like PP I’m the most meaningful and the only one he wants to spend the rest of his life with.

    Post # 57
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We met when we were 17 and he was my first love. We tried to have a relationship, but by the age of 21 we realized we were too young to play adult life. We went our seperate ways and then got back together years and years later. He just proposed last night!

    Post # 58
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    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes, my fiance was my first love.  We started dating when we were 16/17 years old.  After 3 years together, we had an awful, horrible break up that lasted about 8 months (but looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing– It was one of the best things to happen to us).  We got back together, he proposed awhile after that, and now we are 21/22 and getting married in 6 months! 

    During the break up, I “dated” someone else for a short time, but obviously it just didn’t work out.  It was a good experience though and I’m glad I know for sure that my fiance is THE ONE for me 🙂

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @bloodgo1:  I laughed out loud about the Taylor Hanson comment, except I was in love with Zac Hanson.  I met him last year while going to a spur-of-the-moment concert with one of my friends who is still OBSESSED with hanson.

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    Post # 60
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    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    no, and i am so glad. i learned so much from dating in high school and in college and from being heartbroken and breaking hearts. by the time i graduated, i knew exactly what i was looking for in a man. when my fiance came along it was like a dream come true and it made eveything i went through worth it. he is the perfect man for me 🙂

    Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I love my current SO but he isn’t my first love. My first love passed a few months ago and was a great guy who I luckily met before I met my SO. He helped me become a much better person than who I was when him and I first met. So I’m happy I met him

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