Post # 1
So we just got back from our ‘pre-baby’ vacation, so this is officially our first cycle TTC. I’ve been preparing for about 6 months now, getting healthier, taking prenatals, barely drinking at all, reading about TTC, pregnancy, etc. My husband eats very healthy, exercises, and takes care of himself in general so he hasn’t really made any changes up until this point.
One kind of sticky point for us is drinking, however. In the books I’ve read it says that men should also not drink because it can cause low birth weight babies among possible other issues. I really don’t want to take any chances, while I know plenty of babies have been concieved while both parents were intoxicated and turned out just fine. My husband drinks socially, with friends but also with coworkers and work clients (he works in sales). It just so happens that this month is particularly bad for work and social events for him. He’s going to be at an engagement party next weekend for a friend he hasn’t seen in 6 months, and the following week he will be at his annual sales meeting which is basically a drunkfest. I have discussed this concern with him, and he says he won’t drink as much, but sadly with the amount of peer pressure I know he will be under, I know that’s not going to be the case. (I’ve hung out with his boss before, and it involves round after round of patron shots. And I won’t be with him at these events to remind him to stop.)
Based on the amount that he’s going to be gone, I think it would be tricky to get the timing right this month anyway. (I’m not charting so I don’t know exactly when I will ovulate, but planned to just up the BDing around the typical ‘fertile window’ and using a few other signs. If that doesn’t work in a few months then I’ll get more serious about it.) So basically during the possible ‘window’ I’ve deduced, my husband would be home two days. Each of those days would be immediately after an event that involves a fair amount of drinking. I’m wondering if I should just scrap this month and wait until the next when he doesn’t have as much going on? Or just go ahead and try those two days knowing that it probably won’t happen anyway and even if it does the chance of problems are probably slim? I want to get started, but I really want what is best for our future child.
Is your Darling Husband doing anything differently while TTC?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
Well, if it’s just a matter of a few big nights out every here and there, I don’t think it’d be too bad. If it was an everyday thing, that would be different. I’m sure many a baby have been conceived after a little indulgence! 🙂
Hubs doesn’t really drink often, but he has cut down on his coffee drinking a little. He was going through 4-5 cups a day, and he’s gone right down to 2 now. A big improvement. He feels like he’s doing something to help, so he doesn’t mind it!
Post # 4
Honestly, I would just wait if you are having any worries, which it appears you are. It most likely will not be an issue but I would hate to have the regret if something did happen. One month is really not a big difference in the long run to give yourself peace of mind.
Post # 5
As long as he’s not bingeing everyday, it shouldn’t be an issue. Now, I would suggest that your Darling Husband adds a good multi-vitamin for men. Research has shown zinc deficiencies as well as Vit D deficiencies that can affect sperm production as well as mobility. I have my Darling Husband on a GNC multi-vitamin, which also benefits his exercise regime.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens
Mine did the month we successfully conceived. But he was a heavy drinker (daily).
Post # 7
My Darling Husband has cut back, but he didn’t drink a lot to begin with. He has definitely cut back on his coffee intake though. He is also taking vitamins and a vitamin D supplement as his level was low at his last physical.
Post # 8
@highwire: same for my Darling Husband, daily drinker. Not a heavy drinker on those days but he has a drink or 2 daily. He cut back to 2 drinks a week total the month we conceved.
Post # 9
Both of us aren’t heavy drinkers, more social if anything. Both of us had about the same amount of alcohol around the time we conceived. Now, he drinks about the same as before. I don’t believe that he should go alcohol free just because I am. It doesn’t bother me that he drinks in front of me or with friends. We’ve been to parties where I’m the sober one. I’m okay with it. It doesn’t bother me.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t say that my husband is a heavy drinker but he usually has a beer with or before dinner each week night so basically drinks a little every day. The month that we conceived this LO he didn’t drink at all until after I had confirmed ovulation with my temperatures. It was actually his idea because he saw how much I’d done to make the cycle/possible subsequent pregnancy successful and wanted to do everything he could too.
Post # 11
I didn’t say anything to my Darling Husband about it. He has a small glass of whiskey a few nights a week (2-3). However he actually said he wanted me to tell him before I am ready to TTC so that he can quit drinking. He didn’t read anythign about it, but he just felt like it was the right thing for us. Then I showed him the research and now he asks me every time he buys alcohol like “Are we going to start trying this month?”
Then he went and bought new vitamins for himself.
I read this book “Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition” for me and have been making little changes, and Darling Husband asked if there was anything in there for him as well (which there was a chapter) and he read that, which is how he picked out his new vitamins.
He also eats his vegetables now. So cute. 🙂
We want to start NTNT after our honeymoon….so probably July 1 we will be on the BD train (our honeymoon is in June).