(Closed) Is your dress for HIM or YOU?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Who is your dress for?

    My dress is for ME and that's that.

    I picked something I know my MAN would like.

    Picked something my friends/family chose.

    Multiple dress bride lost in the flood of opinions!

    Me and Him - I think we will both love it!

  • Post # 47
    1091 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Fiance had a few simple requests- nothing that looked “old” (which I took to mean nothing too ivory) and something that “looks like a wedding dress”, meaning recognizably white, floor length, and not something I could wear to someone else’s wedding. 

    The dress I chose definitely fits those parameters (though had I had my way entirely I probably would’ve gone slightly less traditional), but it’s very me too- all lace, which I’ve always wanted, and not a poufy ballgown, which infuriated his mother, haha.  I think it’s a happy balance and I love it.

    Post # 48
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I picked a dress for both of us. My dress is a fit and flare and makes me feel so sexy. I want him to look at me and his jaw drop.  But just the other day he said he’d like to see me in a cinderella gown! Are you serious???!!

    Post # 49
    1098 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    My dress is all about me, it’s the one time I get to wear a big white dress so the only opinion that mattered was mine. As far as how Fiance feels? Let’s just say he is letting me dress him head to toe and dictate how his hair will look, his feelings towards clothes are not particularly that strong. He would think I was beautiful walking down the aisle in sweats and a trucker cap so buying a dress “for him” is not really a concept that exists. 

    Post # 50
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

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    @JlovesM:  Ditto to: “My dress is for ME and I never asked what he liked bc I’m wearing it, but I know when he see’s me in it, he will LOVE it.”

    I feel beautiful it in (didn’t want to take it off in the store), and I think that will shine through in my attitude that day.

    Post # 51
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I guess for me, since I’m worried about whether he’ll like it or not haha!

    Post # 52
    651 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My dress is definitely me. In fact, we were looking at pictures of random dresses today and he hates lace (those flower things poking out are ugly..you know I hate flowers right…) and slim cut dresses (“looks like a prom dress”).He liked all the dresses with pick-ups (which I absolutely despise) haha.

    My dress is a mermaid which I did not want but you know what, it was the best cut for me. Lace, I definitely wanted. Think he’s going to be quite surprised to see me but I sure hope he still thinks I’m pretty!


    Post # 53
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I picked a dress I liked and I knew I would be comfortable in. I think he’ll like it too (I can’t imagine anything he would dislike about it, at the very least) He might prefer something a little more body-hugging like a mermaid (I have not asked, for this very reason) but I would not be comfortable wearing it, so I wanted a ballgown.

    Post # 54
    4653 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I bought mine because it is so “ME” And it is perfect for the wedding we are having!

    And I think he will like it BUT It doesnt matter I am hoping he is looking at me and not the dress 😉

    Post # 55
    11050 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I bought my dress for me but knowing he’d like it

    Post # 56
    879 posts
    Busy bee

    I still haven’t quite decided on one yet, but the one I do pick will be for both of us.  I’ve asked my fiancé several times if he’d like to see the few I’m trying to decide on and he very adamantly says no.  He wants it to be a surprise.  He basically has told me to pick whatever I love because he thinks I’ll look beautiful in whatever and he wants me to be happy.  The only thing he has asked me to wear is a pink dress. He knows I never wear white and that I’d be far more comfortable in pink!  

    Post # 57
    7605 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I picked it for me, but I think he’ll like it.  We both dislike the same things on dresses, so obviously I stayed away from those.  He’s always liked me in white, so I should be ok, haha.

    Post # 58
    7245 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My dress is for ME. I think Fiance has probably imagined something traditional like a ballgown, and while I did try some on, they just weren’t for me. He’d seen my Pintrest board for our wedding and all the dresses I had pinned were lace and more fitted, so I would hope my dress choice doesn’t come as some shock.

    I tried to take him into consideration some. I knew he wouldn’t like anything with crazy ruffles or lots of pickup or anything like that. I did have ONE scare since buying the dress. The lady at the tux store was asking about shirts, and asked me right in front of Fiance what my dress looked like because if it wasn’t white he shouldn’t wear a white shirt. Of course I paused, and didn’t answer, to which Fiance replied “It better be white”. It’s actually Allure #8634 in the gold unerlay w/ ivory lace.

    Post # 59
    18 posts
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’ll pick it for ME. My Fiance told me, whatever I wear, he will love it 😉

    Post # 60
    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I picked my dress mostly for myself, but I also wanted something my DH would like. I picked a classic ballgown that I felt fantastic in and my DH LOVED it! He still goes on and on about how much he loved my dress.

    Post # 61
    23591 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Sunshine09:  Not really sure how to entirely answer your question, BUT I do know this.  If I didn’t marry my husband, and was marrying someone else, I would have chosen an entirely different dress!  Big, froofy, princess ballgown with the works!  🙂  I ended up with a simple fit and flare gown with light beading.

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