(Closed) Is your father invited to the bachelor party????? What do you think is right?…

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Hmmm, from the sounds of your post, in your case, I say it’s a bad idea.  My brothers went to my FI’s though (they are groomsmen.)

My dad was sad when he wasn’t invited to BIL’s a few years back…they went to Montreal and honestly I think it was for the best.  Dad took out Brother-In-Law the week before the wedding anyhow.  With Fiance, it wasn’t really an issue – he had a small bachelor party and I think it would have been fine.  But, they’ll probably go out the week before the wedding all together.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it depends on the type of party it is.  Fiance is planning on inviting my dad, but his bachelor party will likely be a golf weekend at a casino in CT.  If it was a wild event with clubs and strippers and such, I would rather him NOT invite my dad.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My dad was not invited to my husband’s bachelor party (which was in NYC and my dad lives in Chicago). In fact, I don’t think the idea ever came up and I probably would have thought that was really weird. I just have never heard of the bride’s father being asked… maybe it’s an east coast thing????

In your situation, I think it may be best to leave your dad out of this party 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think if my dad really wanted to go he could, but suffice to say a bachelor party is for sure NOT his cup of tea so I doubt it will even be an issue. 😉

Post # 7
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Busy bee

My dad went to the earlier part of the day, which was a baseball game.  But my fiance’s father and uncles went too.  The older generation didn’t stick around for the dinner and drinks after.  My fiance and my dad also get along really well and are close.  It meant a lot to my dad that he asked him.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

MsHyman: I think it totally depends on the type of party there is going to be. A crazy, stripper infused party would not be the type of occasion my dad would want to attend, thus, I don’t think Fiance would even think to invite him (this is usually the case in our circle of friends)

However, if there is something more tame like a game, or golf, or just dinner than he should totally invite him! Why don’t you just ask your Fiance what his thoughts are? Maybe he’s not inviting your dad bc he thinks your dad will not want to go?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Unless it is something safe like golfing or something, I’d say no – no dads allowed. Brothers, if they are close and/or part of the wedding party then yes, but no dads. Bachelor parties can get pretty wild, and I doubt that dear old dad really wants to see his future son in law in this way (it may color their future relationship in a negative way).

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Well, I understand how their feelings might be hurt but I think it’s for the best that bachelor’s and bachelorette’s party should not span generations. This reminds me of the “hangover” movie, where the bride’s dad seems really kewl and even lends the groom his car so he definitely seems like the type of guy who could party with the younger generation and YET he did not go and just let the kids have fun, which is what it should be. Maybe the people from the older generation could attend events that happen early during the day but toward party time, it’s best they’re not around.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hahahaha.  I’m sending my dad and his dad with them to be SURE there is no funny business or wild and craziness.  Hahahaha.  FH doesn’t want any, but two groomsmen aren’t exactly trustworthy.  Problem: solved.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i also think it depends on the type of party. i’m not sure if my dad will be invited or not, but Fiance wants to go to the casino so i think it would be ok!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Wow that seems like a bad idea haha. I mean maybe if it was a non-traditional bachelor party like a golf outting or going to the kentucky derby… but “wild and crazy” friends + bars (I’m just guessing based on your description) + dad seems ripe for issues.

I would stick with your FI’s instincts on this one. He wants to have a fun and care-free night, and if he’s worrying about how he looks in front of your dad he can’t do that.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

We got married last August.  My DH’s  best man invited the grooms dad, my dad, and my brothers.  They all went, they just didn’t attend all of the functions.  They started the day at  the Saratoga Race Track, with some drinking and horse betting.  I think the party then moved onto dinner, which everone attened.  Both dads knew there would probaly be a “club” visit, so after dinner they took off for the night.  They still got to celebrate with my Darling Husband, but only went to what they felt comfortable attending.  No hurt feelings. I Also felt better know ing that both of our dads were there, especially with the drinking. My Darling Husband is not a big drinker, but i knew he would that day. 

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