(Closed) Is your FI anything like your dad?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My “dad” is an abusive drug addict who hasn’t had a job since 1993. No he’s nothing like my father.

On another note he does get along with my step dad well (who is amazing btw) and I don’t think they can get along too much. My family likes to mesh together with the inlaws so we all become very close so to me it isn’t weird at all.

Post # 4
4831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guess there are some things.

The more obvious are:

Exactly the same height 5’11” 3/4. Neither of them ever quite made it to 6′.

They also both have dark hair and dark eyes.

They are both very smart and very successful as well as extremely level headed and rational.

The are both sailors (although my dad is a lapsed sailor) and are fairly preppy.

Guess they do have a lot in common!

Post # 5
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My DH and Dad on the outside are nothing alike. DH is a business man, a metro-sexual, and a giant, while my Dad is an ex-military, kills things to eat them, plaid wearing kind of guy, who is average in size.  However, in personality they are very similar. They come across as rough and touble guys, but both are quite sensitive, enjoy building and fixing things, and are liked by everyone. And they both love me more than anything in the world.

Post # 6
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My dad and my Fiance are very similar. They’re both very quiet and laid back. They get along well. That makes me happy because when we come over to visit I can go shopping with my mom and know that my Fiance is perfectly content to talk sports with my dad.

Post # 7
1098 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My father and my husband are so much alike it is scary.  I don’t think if my father could have ordered my future husband from a catalog, he’d have found someone more like him (or to his liking).  I’m OK with that. 


Post # 8
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My sister and I joke that we married each other.  Her husband is touchy feely, talkative like I am and my sister and DH are more alike.  I don’t think I married my dad at all.

Post # 9
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MissTillie:I never really thought my Fiance and my dad were anything alike until FI went on vacation with my family a couple Christmases ago. And then it dawned on me that Fiance and my dad were pretty much the same person. They’re in the same professional field, play the same instrument, love the same music, and tell the same long winded stories. I love it, because these are the things that I love about my dad in my Fiance. I hate it, because these ar the things that I love about my dad in my Fiance. But I guess it makes sense because my dad really was the first man I ever loved in my life.

What’s freaky is that yesterday Fiance commented that there are things that I do that remind him of his mother. Weird! Maybe we really do marry our parents…

Post # 10
3441 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everyone always tells my father that he couldn’t have a son more like him than my DH. It’s scary but great at the same time. I should add that I do have a brother but he is nothing like my father.

But my father has always had anger issues (thankfully he has dealt with them professionally) and that is the one thing about my father that I would change. But that is the only way that DH is not like him. Even their upbringing were identical. And my dad was an amazing involved father who worked so hard to give us a great life so it’s not sad bad marrying a guy like that 🙂

Post # 11
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Mmm I feel the same way sometimes, my dad and Fiance get along really well. Is there any reason you wouldn’t want your Fiance to be like your dad? If he was a good father to you and a good husband…then I’d think thats a positive thing, if not–then maybe that might be difficult.

My dad and Fiance have similar interests but there are a few differences in values too. My Fiance is more stubborn than my dad, and my dad is more religious than Fiance. However, I do notice a lot of similarities with Fiance and my grand father. Which is a little weird. But my grand father wasn’t the best husband for the first five years of my grandparents marriage (insert worries here)

I don’t think its possible for your father and your Fiance to get along too well though, I think thats great! Its better to get along rather than not at all.

Post # 12
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

i dont think my husband is anything like my dad but they get along strangely well – seriously they could sit and talk for hours and trade books all the time…its so great, but so strange too.

  @Talishazwi: that is so funny! different but similar…my sister is just like my dad, and im just like my mom and i think thats why we get along so well – we compliment each other – just like they do.

Post # 13
81 posts
Worker bee

100% like my dad, its almost scary

Post # 14
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If he was, I would not be marrying him. Yes I have a lot of Daddy issues. But Fiance has all the qualities I wished my father had while growing up.

Post # 15
2159 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

DH and my dad come from two different planets, I swear. The only thing I can think of that they have in common is that neither of of them likes public speaking, but where my dad is a nervous wreck about it, for DH it’s just a preference not to be in the spotlight.

Oh and they both jump into pajama pants pretty much the second they get home, but that holds true for most of the guys I know, lol.

Post # 16
7086 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Not my dad, but he is exactly like my grandfather.  The first week that my mom came down and spent with us after we got engaged, my mother was in complete shock, she said it was see her father again as a young man.

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