(Closed) Is your FI excited about his bachelor party?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How would you want to celebrate your bachelorette night?
    Do a Jack-and-Jill with the hubby and celebrate together : (6 votes)
    27 %
    Only with the ladies and we both get our last night being single : (16 votes)
    73 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We’re both excited about our parties!  Honestly, I would so disappointed if Fiance insisted on having a joint party.  It’s “my” night to go wild with my girlfriends, and sorry if this sounds awful, but I don’t want Fiance anywhere in my vicinity haha

    He is really excited about his party.  They’re doing a golf/casino/party weekend at Mohegan or Foxwoods.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    ummmm he is TOO cute and such a keeper. My man feels the same way but I totally convinced him it doesnt have to be sexualized or crazy– it’s his night so he doesn’t need the whole stripper thing. So I think they’re going to the casino for a little gambling, a little drinking, maybe a show and some dinner. Maybe suggest he goes to a comedy show with the guys? A night out with the guys is definitely healthy! BUT seriously… you’re lucky– he’s so cute!

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @hotchildinthecity my Fiance is doing Mohegan too!!

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Do YOU want your parties to be together?

    If you want a night alone out with your girls I would explain to your Fiance that he should understand that a bachelor/bachelorette party isn’t all about going to strip clubs, its just a fun night for you to hang out with your own friends (which is very healthy for relationships to have time alone) and go to or do whatever you consider fun. He could go to a sports game or bowling, whatever hobby he enjoys doing for his bachelor party.  

    Or, if you do want your parties to be together, go for it!!! Its a party so celebrate the way you want to! 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My Fiance would definitely not be interested in a joint party. he’s so excited about his bach party already, not because of the strippers or drinking (of which there will be plenty I’m sure), but because it’s a chance to spend a weekend with his friends, which doesn’t happen very much now that we live together. I”m also looking forward to having a girls’ weekend with my friends, and to be able to be as silly as we want and take as many pictures as we want without having any boys rolling their eyes at us!

    But it seems like you and your Fiance are on the same page, so that’s great 🙂 Not that all bachelor parties mean that the groom sleeps with the strippers (in fact, that hopefully rarely happens–my Fiance is having strippers but will not be sleeping with them, lol), but it’s good that you guys have the same values and agree on what is important.

    Post # 9
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Ugh, that is disgusting that his brother slept with other people before the wedding! INSANE.

    If your fiance insists on not having a “bachelor” party, I would suggest to his groomsmen that they take it light but still have a guys night. Maybe they can just go out to dinner, go see a baseball or football game, go skydiving, camping, or whatever kind of activity he is into. Bachelor parties don’t have to be about getting drunk and going to strip clubs… I think it should be viewed as a way to spend time with your friends celebrating before you are married. My fiance also does not want a bachelor party, but I know his friends want to plan something to all do together. My friends and I are going to visit some wineries and just have a girls weekend… nothing crazy.

    If you and your Fiance have the same friends, maybe you can all get together and rent a lakehouse somewhere for a fun weekend of celebration and then have a girls night with your friends for your bach?

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @tammy: I don’t want to start the stripper debate but not all guys see their bachelor parties as “touchy-feely crazy” and not all girls see it as not that.  In the case of Fiance and his friends, they all have families/full time jobs/wives/grad school/etc. and this is a chance to let loose/get drunk/golf/gamble with no responsibilties in sight.

    On the other hand, I’ve seen bachelorette parties with girls getting spanked by mostly-naked men and running around in the skimpiest clothing imaginable.  So I think it works both ways. 

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My FH is really excited about his bach party. They are going to this awesome, classy steakhouse (eh, I’m a bit jealous, I love this place too! heehee), having tons of great cocktails and food, probably smoking some cigars, lots of catching up with old friends, then coming home.

    My bachlorette party is going to be a spa day with some girlfriends. We’ll get manicures and pedicures (and maybe something else, depending on cost), snack on some yummy apps, and I’ll bring nice champagne. Likely go to lunch before too.

    Both of us partied heavy in our early 20’s (and middle 20’s), and have no interest in doing that now (lol I feel so old typing that, ugh). FH has NO interest in strippers.

    By the time the wedding comes, we’ll have been together for over 4 years, lived together for almost 3 years, and been engaged for a year and a half. JMO, but neither of us sees the days before the wedding as a last night of being single. Single days ended long, long ago! 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Wow, that’s awful that his brother did that. Really, really awful. But, as hotchild said, I would say that reflects more on him as a person than just on the idea that strippers=sex/touchy feely stuff. My Fiance is definitely going to a strip club/having strippers (or at least his friends assure me that’s one of their stops), but I am not at all worried about what he’ll do that night, nor do I think it reflects badly on my ability to satisfy him. But again, it’s great that you and your Fiance, tammy, have the same views. I can’t believe his brother did that–his poor wife!

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I had my bachelorette party with family and friends and it was a lot of fun. Nothing naughty or nasty, it was just a great time. I am glad I went through with it.

    My hubs actually didn’t want a bachelor party. He just wanted to hang out with the guys playing poker and drinking beer but since his boys didn’t want that he ended up not having a party. The night before the wedding though, him and his boys did end up playing poker in the hotel and went to the bar inside the hotel.

    I think if you both want a Jack-n-Jill party then go for it but if you want a night with your girls maybe you can do something with the girls and meet up later with your Fiance and his buds later or something similar. I wouldn’t want to do a Jack-n-Jill if one of us didn’t want it. I am sure you can work it all out.

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