(Closed) Is your Fi romantic?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is so beautiful. He really loves you.

 Have you ever read the book “Five Love Languages”.  Well, it describes the 5 different styles of expressing love.  Gift giving is only one of them, which your Fiance is not.  Words of affirmation is also one, which your Fiance is.  The book helps a couple identify her love language and his love language, and in this way the couple knows how the other person shows love and how they like to be loved.  I bet if you wrote a poem to your Fiance, he would love it because he’s receiving love the same way he gives it.  

By the way, I think it’s so wonderful to having such a thoughtful Fiance. I smiled while reading your post ’cause it reminded me of my Fiance.  Words of affirmation is his love language too.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

that poem is super sweet!

Re: Love languages: my hubs shows his love by doing things for me, but i love when he just spends quality time and talks with me!

it’s interesting to already see the love languages come out so strong just a few weeks into marriage.  It’s hard to understand why those things hmake him feel so loved (since they don’t really do it for me). But it also makes it easier for me to understand what makes him happy and just make a habit of doing it, even though it’s not intuitive

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes he’s romantic.  But he’d be the most romantic guy in the world if he’d give me that darn ring soon!!!  Arrrrgh!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

He can be very romantic and mushy and sentimental.

@bellenga-I think I’m more anxious for your engagement than I was for my own!!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh, I guess I should tell you all the love languages, huh. Lattelove, you mentioned one of them.

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Gift giving

3. Quality Time

4. Acts of Service 

5. Physical Touch

While I am sure we like all of these.  One is your primary love language but you could have a secondary.  Your love language means that is how you tend to show love and prefer to receive love.  Just be aware of your FI’s love language, though.  If you’re gift giving, and he’s words of affirmation.  His “love tank” will only feel full when he receives words of affirmation.  Anyway…I recommend the book to all couples getting married.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I may have to pick up the book! My Fiance does all of those, but he’s really big on getting hugs. = ) He’ll send me a random text to say ‘I love you’ and some nights bring home flowers. He always does the dishes, and he likes to watch a movie together on the couch. He’s just amazing. = D

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My Fiance is incredibly romantic (even though he doesn’t think so)!

He will do little things like turn on the playlist that he created for us and dance with me while “They Can’t Take that Away from Me” plays.
Occasionally, he takes off my engagement ring and asks me to marry him again.

Le sigh…

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Fiance sings to me. In fact, we were apart for years, and I always heard him in my head. “You are so beautiful…” Of course, he sings to everything- the dog, his waffles…he’s a happy guy.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Hubby is so not the romantic guy for the most part. He’s more practical. I have gotten flowers for special occasions, a card hidden in the pillowcase when he had to go away for a couple of days, but he’d never show up randomly for no reason with flowers either! While sometimes I do wish he’d be a little more romantic sometimes, I also love him just the way he is. If he was romantic. he may be less practical, and I need someone practical sometimes (what woman doesn’t)! lol When he DOES do something, it’s very well thought out and always manages to surprise me! I think, as for love language, he is maybe the acts of service with physical touch close behind, and I think I’m maybe the opposite, mostly Physical touch with acts of service as a 2nd. We aren’t the lovey dovey mushy people. We don’t say “I love you” to each other often (just once a day before work usually, so that means it generally isnt said on the weekends lol) but our actions speak for us.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That’s sweet. I also like your story, Joeswifey.

My guy is affectionate, but not romantic. He tells me he loves me plenty, and we show each other we care through our daily actions, but it’s on the level of practical and helpful, not romantic.

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