(Closed) Is your fiance driving you absolutely bananas?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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3552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I asked him to contact a potential vendor about 2 weeks ago and he still hasn’t done it. I forgive him though because for the last several weeks he’s been working on average 57 hours a week and this week his @#%&ing co-workers went behind his back and changed his schedule from 57 hours to 68 hours, took away his day off, and then waited for him to come in the next day to a changed schedule before telling him that they did anything. He was furious, I’m furious, there is no good reason for him to be working this much. It’s sheer incompetence by his general manager. If anyone is driving me bananas it’s his co-workers who I’d really love to give a piece of my mind to, they’re all bitter, unhappy work-aholics who want Fiance to be just like them with no work-life balance and a bad marriage.

Post # 4
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5001 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I didn’t ask my Fiance to do anything for the wedding because I’m way too controlling and impatient to deal with that!!

Post # 5
Hostess
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

he is driving me nuts for other reasons…but he is definitely driving me NUTS lately!

Post # 6
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Mine is!  He is swamped between taking 21 hours in school and working 40 hours a week so I am trying to be understanding, but I am asking for little things like making sure all his groomsmen get measured and getting his uncle’s address.  Oh and having his Brother-In-Law proofread our ceremony (he’s our officiant). 

 

I feel like I’m begging him every weekend to get stuff done, ughhh!

Post # 7
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850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am at the point where I’ve let it go. I’m at peace. I love him and I knew going into this what his planning style is like (wait until the last possible second, abandon tasks because it’s no longer practical to try and get them done!). He is probably going to wear pants he already has instead of getting new ones, and borrow his dad’s ring for the ceremony since he didn’t order the band he liked yet. I think if we had a different relationship, this might drive me crazy, but it doesn’t. 

He has been on top of handling the DJ, thank goodness. The pants and the ring aren’t really a big deal to me, but the DJ stuff definitely is. I’ve been out of the loop in those conversations but I know they’re happening and I trust my FH. 

Post # 8
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@allisonh: YES! Every time he says he’ll do something, he doesn’t do it. It gets to the point where if he says he’ll do it, then says, ‘in a little bit’, I get irritated and tell him that I’ll do it myself. I do have to say, though, that I was talking to him the other day and out of the blue he said, ‘I really need to start helping more with the wedding plans. I know I haven’t and I need to. I’m sorry I haven’t done more.’ I thought it was so sweet, and him acknowledging it without me saying it made a big difference.

Post # 9
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@allisonh:  Sounds like my Fiance 🙂 You’re not alone. Or he’ll tell me he did it and I find out it hasn’t been done yet. He’s not driving me nuts today, but ask me tomorrow hahaha. Sealed 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@allisonh:  This is my Fiance exactly… and it’s irritating. But, this is my Fiance. Unless he makes a choice to change who he is and how he deals with things, he is never going to be the guy that makes a list with me and then gets the things on that list done under his own steam. I’ll either have to remind him, do it with him, or do it instead of him. (So far that’s the DJ, the tuxes, and the transportation.) 

Is that your guy too? Because you can expect that if he is like that in general, he will always be like that, as a husband, as a parent, as  a person. You have to be okay with it, plan around it. (FWIW, in return my Fiance has to plan around my total type A personality and the need to pour over the minute details of all decisions, unless I make a serious choice about changing who I am.)

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@allisonh:  oh man I am in the EXACT same position! We still do not have our honeymoon booked! I’m ready to scream. 

Post # 12
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is why I didnt have my guy do hardly anything. 🙂

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