Post # 1
Just wondering, because mine isn’t. Our chemistry is hit or miss, sometimes it’s really REALLY good and sometimes it’s rather routine. We don’t do it very often either, maybe 2-4x a month. He can get me off every time, but the passion with my last ex was just off the charts. We were not very compatible, he drove me absolutely insane most of the time and we barely had anything in common but the moment he touched me, I’d just forget all of that. We could barely make it past the door before tearing each other’s clothes off and it was like that for over a year. I’d never go back to him, but fantasizing about the sex is pretty great.
It’s hard to go from best sex of my life to occassionally great, but infrequent sex, but my fiance and I have a rock solid, loving relationship and have been best friends for years before we started dating. But my single friends say that the person they marry would have to be the best in bed.
So is your Fiance the best sex you’ve had? If not, do you ever fantasize about the one who was?
Post # 3
@sassylibrarian: by far yes mama ; )
Post # 4
SO is definitely the best. However, I’ve dated mostly women before SO (who is a man) and while I don’t reminisce about a specific person from my past, I occasionally just miss the feel of being with a woman. I don’t think either of us would be into a threesome, though.
Post # 5
I would say that Boyfriend or Best Friend is the best sex I’ve had, but a number of my experiences before Boyfriend or Best Friend were unhealthy. Boyfriend or Best Friend makes me feel safe and complete emotionally, and we have amazing chemistry.
Post # 6
Fiance is by far the best i’ve ever had! I’ve done things with him that i’ve never thought of doing with anyone else. He makes me feel completely confortable with myself and he brings out the tiger in me =)
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat, but maybe 1-2x per month…
Post # 8
No! Not even close.
I had a similar experience though. My ex and I had a really volatile relationship to go along with the passion. I would choose comfort, security, trust, and love any day over a douchebag who is awesome in bed.
Although, it would be REALLY NICE to have both!
Post # 9
Darling Husband is the only one I’ve been with so I have nothing to compare against, but I must say that I do enjoy being with him.
Post # 10
@sassylibrarian: I’m in the same boat as you. Ex was a douchebag, but man…. I do still fantasize about the calibre sex we used to have, but on the whole, my Darling Husband is amazing in every other way the stupid ex is not. I appreciate the value in that.
Post # 11
By far… He is the only one that has made me feel special, cherished, loved and sexy – I never realised what I was lacking in my past relationships until I met FI
Post # 12
Both my husband and I were virgins when we got married so I can’t tell your about actual sex. As far as the other stuff besides sex he definitely is. Past hook ups have been so sloppy and didn’t know what they were doing.
Post # 13
Yes and no.
In love making-absolutely. I have never felt so close to anyone. Ever. I am not a cryer but sometimes with him I do!
In crazy animalistic sex…sometimes. I have an ex (our relationship was solely based upon physical attraction and sex) that I think about from time to time that was better in this arena.
That being said, I would take DH’s love making any day over crazy sex with ex. Like PP, I didn’t realize what I was missing in sex until him.
Post # 14
Yes, Fiance is the best by far. We’ve been together almost 3 years and I still want him as much as I did at the start. We usually keep it to 4-6 x a week and he never fails to get me off multiple times. My ex was my first and I had nothing to compare it to now that I do I know it was lacking. I don’t think he has to be the best but I think you should be satisfied. If you’re not maybe you could talk to him about ways you could both spice things up.
Post # 15
Yes, Fiance is the best by far. For me I think it has to do with becoming more comfortable with myself/my body as I got older, and not being afraid to share what I like and what’s not my favorite. The orgasms are unbelievable but I also don’t hold back at all while we are messing around/having sex.
Do you talk/share what you like with your SO? I would definitely recommend speaking up or just letting loose (as far as noises, etc.) if you are comfortable in doing that. Either way, like PPs said, if your relationship is solid and you both are at least content enough with your sex life (where neither is tempted to stray) then I think that is just as healthy as the next…different things work for different people. 🙂