(Closed) Is your fiance…

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

He’s pretty nonchalant, which makes me more annoyed when he has an opinion on something I disagree with! 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Mine doesn’t get all hyper like I do, but he does ask about it and is willing to give input when asked. He tries really hard to be interested, and I try to get his input on everything.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

the easiest way is to just give him choices. Either-or questions only require a simple answer and don’t make something a choice unless you would truly be happy with either one. Then, you’ll never be disappointed by one of his choices but he can still be involved

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

My Darling Husband wasn’t involved at all – he figured he did the ring and proposal and the next bit was up to me. It suited me pretty well as I mostly did whatever I wanted and had a great group of girlfriends and bridesmaids who were more than willing to help. He chose the venue with me, and did cake and food tasting, and chose his boys’ suits, and obviously had some input to music and ceremony, but basically I did the rest. Which was usually showing him 2 or 3 photos and saying “I like these, which do you want?” It did get me down occasionally when I felt he really didn’t care, but on the day he had an absolute ball – much more so than I think either of us anticipated.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Fiance started out not wanting to be involved at all (and being completely clueless about the process!) However, he’s become more and more involved, and now does his own research to form a real opinion!  It did take about 8 months though.  I think he got involved when he realized it was just a few months away.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Actually Mr. JB is very involved. He’s calling places, getting price quotes, picking out his attire already. He’s even made a spread sheet. If you knew my JB you’d realize what a big deal the spreadsheet is. We planned our first wedding for 2009, but had to postpone, so we’ve started all over again for our 2011 wedding and he’s so much more involved this time. I’m shocked and loving every minute of it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My fiance isn’t as into it as I am, however he does like to be involved and have his say in things. Sometimes I will talk to him about something wedding related and he rolls his eyes or changes the subject (usually flower/ decoration related) but when it comes to things that he feels ‘matter’ he is more than happy to give his input.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ha no!! he is not involved that much at all… but honestly its ok, for now. i picked out (&researched) the church and venue..after we signed contracts he came with me to look around so he could see it.

the only thing i hope to get involvement from him is maybe the food and the music, maybe the tuxes. Other than that, i don’t mind calling most of the shots. Hes a “whatever you want” kinda guy!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Nope, and it makes me sad sometimes! I always want to talk about some idea I have, and he’s like, “uh huh, yeah, that’s good” *sadface* I think most guys are like that though! He’s excited about the marriage, and talks about that, but not so much the wedding. I’d rather that than the opposite though!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

HE DRIVES ME CRAZY!!! I want him to be involved, but everything I suggest or ask his opinion on, I get the shrug and “that’s fine/whatever you want babe/it’s going to be all about you, do what you want to do!!” (and the all about me thing…only because he told me he wants me to have “my” day.) The whole discussion on it’s all about you babe, well I don’t want it all about me. I want it all about US! How do I make him see that? To my very obvious frustration, he just lets me do whatever and it’s ok…but I would love his input since I am trying to plan OUR wedding from TX and the event will be in MN. >>>SIGH<<<

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Mine is definitely involved, he’s had lots of opinions and will randomly stop in the middle of the conversation and say “I can’t wait to marry you, our wedding is going to be amazing.”  🙂 

I’m sorry you girls are having problems, maybe try to find specific things to get your SO’s involved on that include things they enjoy?

Post # 16
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Busy bee

mine is fairly involved with the planning. He gives me his inputs when i ask him and tells me whatever i want. sometimes i just wish he would be more into it but i take what i can get from him haha i dont think most guys are into the little details as the ladies since girls always dreams of her wedding

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