(Closed) Is your fiance/husband anything like your first love?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My first love was more of an infatuation. I put up with him cheating, lying, constantly flirting with other girls, & not Seeing him often. I realized when he dumped me for another girl I knew he’d been cheating on me with, that I was in love with his appearance and who I thought he was. Was a mess for a few months, and then starting dating FI! Who was sweet and sincere, and just as “jealous” as me when it comes to other people (he was cheated on too! Ugh people are sick) being too flirty or inappropriate. My second love (I like to think he’s my first, and that the first one doesn’t count), is so much better in so many ways 

Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Carolsays:  Yes, in terms of how OCD and Type A they are.

They actually were friends at one time (still talk/email on occasion), as they lived on the same street and hung out quite a bit. This was after “first love” and I broke up, and I actually met Darling Husband through a mutual friend. So, small world.

 

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Carolsays:  I don’t know if my 4th-grade crush (my “first love” haha) liked me in return, but I can definitely see some similarities – wry sense of humor, intelligence, tendency to take things literally – apparently I already had a type at age 9!

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I am pleasantly surprised that while trying to add to this post I realized I would have to say my Fiance is my first love. I remember being in love with my ex boyfriends but once I met my Fiance what I feel for him blows all the “love” (or what I thought was love) I had for my ex’s out the window!

 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I think there are some subtle similarities. Has anyone heard the song “I Got The Boy” by Jana Kramer? It’s cute!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

Nooooo they are complete opposites!!! Thank goodness! Ha!

First love: The first few months we dated he seemed perfect, then his true colors came through! He was always jobless, broke, living with different people, manipulative, terrible with money, no real goals or ambitions, addicted to video games, was a smoker, cheater, liar, etc

My fiancé: He’s an amazing man, the kind you don’t believe exists until you meet him! He has a sensitive soul, is gentle and kind, romantic, goal oriented, excels at his job, owns a home, is good with money, loves animals, makes me feel safe and secure, and way too many other qualities to list!

I always thought the first guy I seriously dated was my “first love,” but now that I’m with my fiancé, I know what REAL love is. What I had with the ex wasn’t love at all. So technically I’d say my fiancé is my first love!

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

I don’t think my first love and my SO are very similar, except for that they both make me feel the same way. My first love was my best friend and I always felt very loved and accepted when we were together. My current SO is the same way- I feel loved and accepted and he is absolutely my best friend and favorite person. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee

Completely different in every way, looks, personality, morals etc. Im so so thankful I met my Fiance, and I possibly wouldn’t appreciate the man he is if I hadn’t been with my first love to realise how awful some men are!!!

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Nope, thank goodness! LOL.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

The only thing they have in common is that they are both good people. My tastes in men changed remarkably in the decade between 17 and 27!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Well, my first love was named Daniel, wore a lot of ninja turle sweaters, love them, and was 4.

MY Darling Husband is not Daniel, wears a uniform, and is 32. So nothing alike? hahaha

Seriously? I have had relationships(long and short), 1 night stands, guys, and dates, and I truly believe my Darling Husband is my first true love 🙂

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My first love: Immature, selfish, womaniser, he did take care of me…even though he was trying to get with another girl behind my back.

My husband: Mature, selfless, committed, definitely knows how to treat a girl. Secure, financially stable, thoughtful, loving, patient, wise…and so much more.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Enoch Turner Schoolhouse

First love was a cheater.  He cheated on me with some girl, then he cheated on her to be with his now-wife – but I heard he’s cheating on her too.

He was also short, very into his looks, and a BIG mama’s boy.

My Fiance is the complete opposite and I thank the LORD he’s nothing like the first guy.

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

No they are very different people!!!

My first love was very traditional, marriage-minded, believed men should be the breadwinners while the wife stays home and makes babies.

My current SO does not subscribe to that view AT ALL! He is very much into women doing their own thing. He is a very relationship/committment-minded man and openly admits himself that the bachelor style does not suit him. However it took him a bit more warming up to the idea of marriage because he never wanted to marry anyone until he met me. 

Post # 45
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My husband is/ was my first and only love! I am very lucky to have him, and he is everything I want in a man.

I guess it makes sense that if you look for certain qualities in others, you would be attracted to similar men. I just struck lucky with my first, and love him like crazy.

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