Post # 1
I always thought I would marry a lawyer, teacher or someone who generally wears a “suit” to work. I also thought I would marry someone who rode a motorcycle. HA! Darling Husband works in a skilled trade and wouldn’t get on a motorcycle if someone paid him $100.
I also thought I would marry someone with dark hair (DH is blond) and lots of facial hair (DH couldn’t grow a beard if he wanted to) and very tall (DH is 5’11” – not what I would consider tall).
Additionally, I thought I would marry a “city boy” but Darling Husband is a country man to his core. He loves MMA, jazz music and growing his own vegetables and fruits. I thought I would marry someone who loved rock music, shopped exclusively at Whole Foods and was far too “evolved” for watching MMA.
I’m a vegetarian and thought I would also marry a vegetarian. Well, Darling Husband is every inch a meat-eater, and his last meal will probably be a steak.
However, I always thought I would marry someone who worships the ground I walk on, someone who is intuitive, sensitive to my feelings, intelligent and loyal almost to a fault. So, in that sense, I married exactly the man I pictured. I guess I’m just feeling a little mushy today because my Darling Husband pulled off a seriously elaborate “sweep-me-off-my-feet” romantic evening last night, so I’m asking other bees: Did you picture marrying the kind of guy your SO is?
If not, what’s different? Do you wish he was more like your “fantasy”?
Post # 3
I never pictured getting married in the same way that I never had a “type”
Post # 4
I wanted to marry Prince Eric from The Little Mermaid. That didn’t really work out.
Post # 5
not what i pictured but he is my type. Edit: i did think i would marry someone tall. lol hes about 5’7
Post # 6
I never pictured myself marrying a blue collar guy who lived in a whole other state from where I grew up and lived all my life. Did I picture marrying a guy who was absolutely sweet to me and treats me better than anything I think I ever think I deserve? Yes, and he does, and I cannot wait to be his wife. 😀
Post # 7
I definately did not see myself with a guy like SO. He’s college educated and does wear a suit to work, but I always imagined I’d be with someone who was intellectual like me.
My SO does not like to read books (unless they are about his hobbies, airplanes, cars or war). He could care less about history, which I am passionate about, and has on several occassions suggested that various historical landmarks should be bull dozed. In fact, he wanted to use modern cememt to ‘fix’ a 2,000 year old Roman cistern so it could be put back to its orignial use. I was HORRIFIED. He hates theater, musicals, museums, etc. We’ve gone into wonderful antique shops together and he thinks it smells like death.
He’s also very manly, for lack of a better word, and stubborn. He can be controlling and he likes to take charge. He’s probably the more dominant one in our relationship, and I always thought I would be with a guy who was more obediant. 🙂 I’m very stubborn, controlling and like to take charge, too, but it seems to work for us for some reason. I seem to take care of the ‘big’ things, while he is more interested in the minutia. For example, I will make sure we buy the plane tickets for a trip. He will make sure we have tooth brushes when we go.
Lol, however, we are both foodies and spend a lot of our time shopping for food, looking at food, looking up recipes, making food, etc.
My SO is straight off the boat Polish, and I always joke that I thought I’d end up with a cultured European. Well, at least I got the European thing right. 🙂
Post # 8
@shesho: OMG, me too. I was smitten.
Post # 9
Hmmm, for the longest time I pictured marrying my high school sweetheart. Kind a “bad boy”, dark hair & eyes, ladies man.
I ended up marrying the sweetest, small town, honorable, thoughtful, trustworthy guy ever. A teacher and someone who really cares about me and our relationship/family. I truly feel like one of the luckiest women alive. I love my Darling Husband and wouldn’t change a thing about him. <3
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
He isn’t the type I would have normally gone for. He’s cool though 😉
Post # 11
My mom always said, “Marry a man that can sing to you on your wedding day.” I kind of kept that in the back of my mind for years even though all my BFs were terrible singers. When I met my Darling Husband, he was (and still is) a music teacher, so I knew kind of from the beginning that he was the one. During college I kind of thought I’d marry someone geeky, like me, in the IT field because that was all I knew, but I am glad that wasn’t so.
And he did sing to me on our wedding day 🙂
Post # 12
@QueenOfSerendip: I was absolutely set on marrying someone from my region, and then I married Darling Husband who is from across the country, but coincidentally he is from a few hours away from where I grew up.
Post # 13
I actually had no idea. For a long time, I thought I might never get married because all the guys I went on ENDLESS DATES WITH just seemed so… I don’t know. Very into their suits and their hair and their Wall Street job.
I was drawing enormous blanks when I pictured getting married. I just couldn’t picture being in a comfortable life with anyone. I’m older (early 30s) and thought I might be too set in my ways.
I never thought I’d marry someone from another country, that’s for sure!
Post # 14
For the most part, yes. I always envisioned myself with someone who is outgoing, into sports and cars, has lots of friends and who will just generally make me feel loved and safe. My fiance is all of those things, and he has dark hair, which I love!
The funny thing is that my ex was everything I never thought I would end up with and yet I ended up marrying him. Obviously it didn’t work out.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I never had a “type” (shy girls don’t usually get pick of the litter in dating) but I can say that I’m very surprised that I got along so well with someone who has completely different hobbies than me. I like outdoorsy nature stuff, fossil hunting, animals, etc, and he likes sports (a LOT), XBox, and music/music theory. The only time he’ll volunteer to be outdoors for an extended period of time is if it’s at a sporting event.
I think what bonds us together is more about the way we think, how our logic works, etc. That surprised me! I always thought being with someone too much “like you” would be boring but it’s definitely not.
I also never in a million years pictured marrying someone with facial hair, haha. But he looks funny without his goatee so now I love it!
Post # 16
I never thought I’d get married, but my husband is definitely my “type.” I’ve always liked tall (6’+), stocky guys with light hair/skin/eyes. I really love facial hair and my husband has a very full, but short beard.